Why I Do Not Have A Girlfriend.

Am I the guy in the middle? I Wish.

   Why don't I have a girlfriend? the question should be "why should I have a girlfriend". I've been in countless conversations with friends, especially one that I'm reuniting with after a long time. We'll ask each other of what we've been doing, how life is treating them, and how they are holding up. Inevitably, I'll ask if they are in any relationship, and the reply mostly will be a resounding yes, followed by a long story of how they meet this wonderful girl (or boy) who is everything they dreamed of, and how She (or He) is all they can think about all day. Those who are not currently in a relationship go on to tell me about this heartless girl (or boy) they dated, and how he/she messed up big time, which lead to the end of their relationship.
 After all the narration, they'll ask for my own "relationship story". and I'll tell them "I'm not in a relationship". They'll say "ok then, what about your Ex-es". I'll reply, "I've actually never been in one before". This is followed by a ridiculous look of disbelief, and most of them assume I'm lying. I then go on to explain that thanks to a number of factors, I've not been in a relationship.
 First and Foremost, thanks to my upbringing, I developed some principles by which I've actually lived my entire life. Originally, I never wanted to be in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, I just wanted to cut to the chase and get someone willing to marry, and go ahead to marry her. This was in turn aided by my "phobia" for the female folk. I use to be scared of girls, thanks to some earlier experience,as well as the fact that girls always posed as the only obstacle between me and the top position in most of my activity as a younger child, making me see them as a threat, which I must always fight.
 As I grew older, I realized I'll probably need to get closer to girls to be able to achieve somethings. I got closer to a few very intelligent girls around me, I learned a lot from them, and subconsciously, they raised my expectation from any girl I'll get to date. This actually reduced the chances of any girl I meet. Because the first time I meet any girl, I begin to measure her up with all of my female friend, not one of them, but all of them. No girl has been able to combine all the positive attributes of my female friends. (I act hope to meet a girl who will make me forget about all my standards or expectation.)
 Another issue I have to deal with is the fact that I began to have crushes on many of my female friends, (I've actually had a crush on all of my female friends at different time.) I realized that if I asked every girl I crushed on, I would end up dating too many people. The funny part was that the crush was on and off, I would get over it, and later, I would crush even heavier on them. It would also be very awkward if I have dated all of my female friends and then went on to brake up by them. Seriously, I'm better off crushing on all of my friends, than breaking up with all of them.
 Finally, there were some girls I wanted to date, and some of them were also interested in dating me, but there was just one problem, They were in a relationship at the time, and I was not willing to break up someone else relationship, just to satisfy myself. So it was an issue of availability vs moral.
 So here am I today without a girlfriend, but enjoying every moment of being single. And most importantly pleasing God. Since I do not have a girlfriend, I'm actually under less pressure to engage in acts of fornication, and I don't have to spend money on making someone else happy at my own expense.
 But seriously though, I would very much love to meet that special someone very soon. (Today is not a bad day for that to happen.) Any girl interested in being that "Special someone" should feel free to contact me, we can start from "somewhere".
 Until then I'm Single, I'm Free, and I don't have any Worries.

Song Of The Day: Taylor Swift - You're Not Sorry

 This is just the right song to dump an ex with. I don't know what might have inspired Taylor Swift to write this song, (I heard she mostly use the experiences of her friends) but if I ever have to break up with any girl, I'll try very much to call in on a radio program, ask them to play this song in commemoration of my ended relationship, and dedicate the song to my Ex.

 But it's a beautifully great piece of Music, Nice lyrics, and If I'm asked to rate it, I'll give it a 10/10.

 But if she actually wrote this song after a guy broke up with her, I'm really sorry for such a fellow, and let this serve as a warning to Him, Whenever He sees me, He'd better run, because I will "treat His fuck-up."

Taylor Swift - You're Not Sorry (Video)

Taylor Swift - You're Not Sorry (Lyrics)

Song Of The Day: Tinie Tempah and Kelly Rowland - Invincible

They actually Look Cute together

  This is one Big song, It crosses different genre of Music, and combines the necessary to make it a great song in an almost perfect manner.

 Kelly Rowland selflessly give us her luscious voice, while Tinie Tempah takes it to a more serenading level. It's a nice song I'll recommend it for anyone who intends to win the love of he/her intended Lover.

 It's a very deep and insightful song, rich in lyrical content, and just the nice stuff to put you in a lovey-dovey mode.

Tinie Tempah and Kelly Rowland - Invincible (Video)

Tinie Tempah and Kelly Rowland - Invincible (Audio)

Tinie Tempah and Kelly Rowland - Invincible (Lyrics)

Am I Addicted To Love?

That Should be Me and My Miss in the Picture.

 Suddenly, everywhere I turn, I'm confronted with something that reminds me of Love (Not sex, please, there is a difference. We'll talk on that later.)
 My old crushes are showing up everywhere I turn, Female friends I have are suddenly seeming more hotter, (or cooler, depending on which generation you belong to.) And I'm meeting new female friends who are not helping my plight at all.
 I literally use to close my eyes whenever I see a really cute couple, but in recent times, that has been impossible. As much as I'll like to put an excuse to this, there is a fact that is impossible to ignore. I am getting older, (I actually turned 20 years old this year) and so are my friends. Thanks to my more developed mental capacity, physical attribute assessment and appreciation capacity, and most importantly, but also most dangerous of all is some hormone advancement. (I don't know the name for this hormones, because I'm not much of a science guy.)
I've come to some conclusion, hoping this will help in alleviating my plight.
 Firstly, I'll probably get a very soon. But there is a big challenge here. Thanks to the many beautiful, intelligent , mature, selfless, and motherly-hearted female friends I have, who I happen to be very close to, It is almost impossible for me to find a girl who can perfectly, or preferably, finely combine most of the positive attributes of my female friends. It is going to be very difficult, if not impossible for any girl to meet this high standard of perfection, which this girls have built in my mind. But then maybe I will meet a girl, who will make me just forget about all these standards and conditions altogether.
 Secondly, I might have to stop being friends with all my female friends, Maybe this will help me ignore more of my emotional need for companionship. But this might boomerang, as it might leave a bigger vacuum, making me an emotional wreck in the process, thereby hastening me to take a wrong decision of getting a girlfriend. In which case, I might end up getting the wrong girl.
 Thirdly, I will like to get married next year. I have told this to a couple of friends, and after listening to my argument, some have bought the idea, while others have out-rightly advised me against it. Which girl in her right mind will happen to marry a 21 year old guy, (I'll be 21 years old next year), who doesn't have a fortune to his name, (But he does have big ambitions), and is not even a university graduate yet. By my estimate, I will probably have to marry someone about three to five years older than I am, As most girls my age-mate still want to live their live, have fun, and be independent. What they want in a relationship is different from what I want. But if I'm lucky, I might just find a special "someone" who wants to begin to live her life with her "Soul-mate" early enough, to have th advantage of being "Pure, Innocent, or simply all the advantages of being a couple."
 Actually, I'll prefer if I find a girl who fits my "Dream-Girl Description", I date her, and she gets along well with my friends (male and female) as well as my family. Then Next year, probably August, we get married, and "Live Happily Ever After".

Song Of The Day: DJ Ironik - Stay With Me

The dude is also Handsome by the way

 If You've at any point heard that Westlife Song,
"Stay with Me,
Don't fall asleep too soon,
The Angels can wait for a moment, etc, etc."
 And if You in anyway have a love for Hip-Hop, then this is the song for You. Although if You are not a Hip-Hop head, You are still gonna love it.
 I sometime find it difficult to listen deeply to a song, but I'll still want to listen to something that sounds deep and familiar at the same time, at such moments, This song comes to my mind, and puts my mind to rest.
 It sure is a great song for deep thinking, reminiscing, inspiration, and preparation for a Big day.
Feel free to check the song out via the link provided below.

DJ Ironik - Stay With Me (Unofficial Video)

DJ Ironik - Stay With Me (YouTube link for Lyrics and Audio)

DJ Ironik - Stay With Me (Lyrics)

I'm In A Love Triangle

I hope the three of Us don't end up Like This.

Before I begin writing this Post, I'll like to say something: I actually hope two people never get to read this piece. Firstly, My Best Friend; Secondly, My Crush, who My Best-Friend happens to be interested in. On a second thought, I also hope My Wife and maybe My Children never get to read this too. because it might cause a lot of controversies in the future, especially if I can't write special piece for my wife. And Maybe My aunty, siblings, pastor and some of my co-workers never get to read this. Else this is surely gonna change their view of me.
Back to business. Over the years, I've had interest in a couple of girls, I just wanted to be more than friends with them, but with time, most of the feelings get washed away, while some of them persist, and manage to stay subdued over time.
But then, My best-friend happens to be a "ladies favorite". He meets a girl for the first time, and she falls head over heels for him. While I'm a sharp contrast to that, I'm more likely to be disliked by a lady whose just meeting me, (actually, most of the female friends I have, I meet under circumstances where we just had to get along with one another.)
One thing I'm happy about is that My friend (Let's call him "T" for the purpose of this discussion, except you read my previous piece on Him) doesn't "Over Use" this to his advantage. He respects these girls, treats them right, and tries to be best of friends with as many of them as possible.
Just like every other guy out there, T also has feelings for a number of this girls, Two of them actually, until recently when He meet a third one, who He has been crazy about (Which is very uncharacteristic of Him.)
I'll tell you more about the other girls, and His own dilemma in dealing with them some other times, but today, I'm gonna talk about only one of them. (Let's call her "F" just for the purpose of this discussion, except if you know the three of us personally, in which case I'll most probably be in big trouble).
I'll start right from the genesis of this whole palaver (i actually didn't know palaver is a correct English word until I checked my dictionary, I thought it was pidgin).
I started senior secondary school about a month later than most of my peers, then I was posted to a wrong class for over half of the academic session. When eventually I was transferred to the right class, I noticed a couple of things about this class (I'll write about it sometimes in the future.) and It was actually impossible not to notice this young, confident and vibrant young boy. I was actually sat right behind him, and we became friends. I also noticed this girl who always had a beret on, (Which was kinda uncommon in our class back then). She was beautiful, and had this lovely smile which was infectious.
The boy was "T" while the girl was"F". Before the end of our first year of school, there were lots of hook-ups in our class, as we had begun to notice the characters of each other, and get to know each other better.
"T" and "F" were mutually attracted to one another, but didn't exactly go into an official relationship, although they were as good as being a couple. They were even closer and more cute than most known couple in the class back then. But then, instead of openly showing affection for one another, they'll engage in public argument, and consistently take opposing sides on almost every discussion, but the chemistry between them was very visible to everyone.
After we finished secondary school, I, "T" and "F" got closer than before, and they still didn't have any official relationship, although they both admitted to having feelings for one another.
As I and "F" got closer, I began to have feelings for her, as I began noticing more positive sides of her, and I'll admit, she got even more beautiful (I don't know how that's even possible, because she was already too beautiful before.)
I believed if I leave this feeling unattended to, it will die a natural death, but each time we talked, chat, or I saw her pictures, I loved her even more. If she was somebody else, I will probably have told her about my feelings for her, but she is suppose to be in a relationship with my Best friend "T".
 I believe asking her out will amount to betraying the confidence and trust of My Best-Friend, although they never dated, and I don't see that happening soon, but then even if I date get to date her, I have this premonition, that she'll always compare me to "T" which might prove disastrous for our relationship, and cause constant conflict between "T" and I, which is something I'll rather avoid.
If I was to advice someone else who was in this same predicament, it may be easy doing that, but right now, I've decided to keep shunning my feelings, and remain best of friends with both "T" and "F". And this has also made me have a change of heart in the way I give people relationship advice.

Song Of The Day: Taylor Swift - Forever and Always (Piano Version)

Tell Me She's not Beautiful, and I might just Punch You in the Face.

 This Song will easily make it into a chart of my all time favorite Songs, this is despite the fact that I actually heard it very recently.
 It's a music of a undying Love a girl has for a boy. Interestingly, I can partially relate with it, because right now, I'm searching for love, and I'm in a big fix, as I'm caught up in a love triangle. (I'll talk more about it in my next post coming up in a few minutes hours.)
 The first/original version of this song sounds really great, but after removing all the other musical instrument, and singing the song accompanied by only a piano, the level of greatness of the song is only taken to a new and higher level.
 As a side-note, I'll say this is one lovely piece of music, from a very beautiful girl.
 Join me and enjoy the song, as I proceed on a quest to find a love that's gonna last me "Forever and Always".

Forever and Always "Piano Version" (Audio with Slide Show)

Forever and Always "Piano Version" (Audio from Myspace)

Forever and Always "Piano Version" (Lyrics)

Song Of The Day: Jason Mraz - I'm Yours

Left to me, This song will win every award it is eligible to contend for, from Grammy, to MTV, to Channel O and what ever other award is out there.
It's just a perfect example of what a Love song should sound like.
It's just an endless confession of unlimited love from a Guy to His lovely Lady.
So "No need to hesitate no more, I'm Yours."

Jason Mraz - I'm Yours (Official Music Video)

Jason Mraz - I'm Yours (Live Performance)

Jason Mraz - I'm Yours (Audio)

Jason Mraz - I'm Yours (Lyrics)

Song Of The Day: Phil Collins - True Colors

This song is so cool, I just can't find the right combination of adjective to use in describing it, and not spoil the mood and special feelings of the song in the process.
To not be a kill joy, I'll just stop writing right now, and instead allow you enjoy the song.
This song is dedicated to everyone who loves somebody out there, especially, the "special someone" who called me earlier this evening.
I Love You and do see Your True Colors".

Phil Collins - True Colors (Official Music Video)

Phil Collins - True Colors (Performance backed by lara fabian)

Phil Collins - True Colors (Live Performance)

Phil Collins - True Colors (Lyrics)