Word For The Day: 20-AUGUST-2014

Charles Caleb Colton

Friendship often Ends in Love; but Love in Friendship - Never.
 - Charles Caleb Colton

Vacancy: Girlfriend Wanted

GIRLFRIEND WANTED

 It's official, Your's Sincerely is searching. Searching for "The One". That special someone, who is supposed to make all the difference in my life, for whom I'm supposed to be willing to go to any length. Before we even begin to talk about this, I want to make one thing clear, "The One" can only be a female, either a girl, lady or woman. (I'll talk about the difference in another post, possibly tomorrow, if you wanna help me with that, feel free to drop a comment).
 I spent the first fifteen years of my life looking at only the negative parts of the female folk. That wasn't my fault, as their case was not helped by the fact that some of the worst persons I knew on a personal level were actually females, while the good ones were all kinda in a competition with me. We were constantly at each others throat.
 A couple of years ago, I made a new friend who changed my life forever. She made me see girls from a different perspective, showing me what I had been missing by not having a female friend, while teaching me a lot of things in term of relating with girls. She taught me things I'll never have known, things most guys never knew, and for the first time in my life, I actually had a non-competitive healthy relationship with a girl who wasn't in my family.
 I'll have given anything to date her, she was that much special to me, despite all the dark side there was to her which I knew of, but there is a twist to our story. She stays outside Lagos. Not just outside, but very far away. It will be plain stupidity for me to consider a distant relationship at this time of my life, not with what I know, or what I'll love to enjoy from any relationship I'm in. Dating her was automatically out of the question. But then, I'm in need of a relationship, I think I'm matured enough for one, I believe I can handle the responsibilities and privileges that come with one.
 So right now, I'm on the look out for a girlfriend, and will share with you what exactly I'm looking for in a girlfriend.
 In the Meantime, I'll continue with my quest to find "The One".

Vacancy: New Friends Wanted

Friends Wanted

 The past 15 months of my life has brought me to a couple of realization. Firstly, I don't have enough friends. Secondly, I've outgrown most of my friends. And Finally, I urgently need new friends.
 My plight is not aided by the fact that I am kinda an Introvert. There are two proverbs that keep ringing in my head each time I think about these issues. Firstly, Change is the only constant thing. Secondly, the more things change, the more they remain the same.
 I've decided to open up myself to new people, experiences, and thinking patterns. Hopefully, I'll get to make new friends who'll help me in my quest through life. Every friend I ever had played an important role in my life, so also I've decided to share the roles for which I've got "friends vacancy".
 I need a friend who is very intelligent but quiet. His role will be to challenge me educationally, bringing out the best in me, while ensuring I still take time to keep my private matters private.
 I need a friend who is a socialite. As most of you probably know now, I'm not a known figure, but I think that situation can be helped if I have a friend who is well know, maybe not a celebrity. But at least someone who knows the social circuit, and can get me into any event I want to attend. Even the ones that are supposed to be strictly by invitation.
 I also need a friend who is wealthy, or has a wealthy parent. Either way, He/She or His/Her parents should also be very liberal with their wealth, thereby helping me with some of my finances. Although I'll only need their help in setting up some business. I promise not to waste their money, and to also help them with any investment they might be interested in. (I happen to have a good knowledge in that regard.)
 I need a Socially aware friend. Some who is at the happening club every friday, and knows about all the happening places, joints and events. He should also be Trendy, and very fashion conscious. These traits will hopefully rub off on me (Positively). Then I can also be a happening guy.
 I also need a crazy friend. The type who believes everything is possible, and is always willing to tackle the seemingly impossible. Someone who is always ready to take the leap with me, face any danger, take on anyone or anything, acts first ask questions later, risk everything he's got on something his heart tells him is right although every evidence says he is wrong. Someone who is impulsive, and will go to any length with me.
 Finally, I think it's time I finally get myself that girlfriend have been telling y'all about. Maybe then I can stop checking out all of my beautiful female friends, and stop day dreaming about "One Girl".

Word For The Day: 5-September-2012

 

Friendship often ends in Love; but Love, in Friendship - Never.
 - Charles Caleb Colton

A Friend In Need Is A _____

Attitude makes all the Difference in Giving and Receiving

 A Friend in need can mean a lot of things to a different people. That's why we say "Different strokes for different folks." The popular saying is that "A Friend in Need is a Friend Indeed."
But time and again, I've had reason's to disagree with this. I've been shown that just as He can be a "friend indeed," a friend in need can also be "a counselor, a confidant, a threat to You, or worse of all, A Pain in the Ass."
 Back to the original saying, a friend in need can be a friend indeed diverse ways, He can be Your truest friend, standing by Your side, attending to your every need, just to ensure He gets what he needs, while at the same time, He can begin to bring up everything he ever did for you. Even the inconsequential ones. The favors you never thought in Your wildest dreams will be mentioned ever again, some even go as far as bringing back to your memory embarrassing moments you shared together.
 The most annoying friends are split into two categories, there are some who will stick to you like a tick, almost walking in your legs, willing to do anything, even when you obviously do not need their help. It's worse if you are in public, as they seem to have lost all sense of decorum, and would gladly disgrace the both of You. They'll agree to whatever You say, take decisions for you, live for you (If Possible), and make Your life a living hell.
 The second and I'll say most annoying ones are those who act as if You owe it as a duty to them to satisfy whatever need they have. They'll threaten You, coerce you, cut you off, and even blackmail you just to get what they need. Most of the time they don't deserve the favors, but they'll just choose to be a pain in the neck, giving you unpleasantly surprise visits, and would even report you to everyone you know in common, telling them of how you are being selfish, proud and arrogant.
 I had an experience with someone recently, doing him a favor, and expecting him to meet me halfway across, finish up the stuff himself, but he was adamant that I should do all the work myself and send him the completed Job. This is in spite of the fact that doing it had already cost me unnecessary expenses. He was adamant, and when I insisted He come to collect his Job and finish it off Himself, he requested that I dispose of the whole project, as he will get what He needs elsewhere. I decided this was going to be the last time I'll ever do anything for him again. And I intend to keep my word.
 Just as "A Friend in Need can be A Friend Indeed",  so also "A Friend in Need can be A Pain in the Neck". It all comes down to wisdom, maturity, experience and attitude.

Song Of The Day: Bebe and Cece Winans & Mavis Staples - I'll Take You There

Cece and Bebe Winans, Looking good as always.

 This song is simply out of this world, each time I listen to it, I feel different, I actually spent a whole day listening to only this music, I never got tired of it.

 I actually have no idea what genre of music to classify it as, probably "Heavenly Music". Although I do know that music in Heaven will surely sound greater than that, after all, it's God who'll put that in our mouth.

 If Music is an anti-depressant, then this is the peak of it all, It surely is an enhancer, as well as being addictive. It's simply crazy, Christian, Cool, Creative Masterpiece, I just don't know what to say.

 I can remember listening to it as a little kid, and being enchanted by it, getting caught up in it, and repeating the chorus non-stop, and not knowing the lyrics perfectly but enjoying it non the less.

 Bebe, Cece and Mavis simply killed it. Their voice was soothing, the lyrics is insightful, the tempo is just perfect, I've actually run out of words to describe it. 

 Just so I don't kill your appetite for it, I'll step away and allow You enjoy the song Yourself.

Don't forget, "I'll take You there".

Bebe and Cece Winans & Mavis Staples - I'll Take You There (Video)

Bebe and Cece Winans & Mavis Staples - I'll Take You There (Live Performance)

Bebe and Cece Winans & Mavis Staples - I'll Take You There (Lyrics)

Song Of The Day: Djinee - Overkilling

One of the Coolest album arts I've ever seen from Nigeria.

  This song is simply crazy, it is a perfect display of creativity at it's best. Djinee simply had to be "In the Zone" to do a song of this quality.
 I can't remember when this song was released, (and I'm not going to google it) but I can vividly remember that I loved it right from the first time I heard it. Actually, almost everyone who heard it for the first time in my presence, or told me about their first experience with it, Loved it at the first hearing.
 I think this song did win a lot of awards, especially when the video came it. It was very different from other Nigerian music videos, with the creative use of composition and animation by those Mex guys. The video did compliment the song, taking it to new heights and unparalleled level of popularity as well as acceptance.
 The song is all about a former "Bad Boy" who is repentant of His past, has changed for the better, and is giving out a word of advice to His hearers.
 A parting line from the song, (as well as one of my favorite.) "Don't spend Your life to buy money, cos You can't spend money to buy life."

Djinee - Overkilling (Video)

Djinee - Overkilling (Audio)

Djinee - Overkilling (Lyrics)

Song Of The Day: Taylor Swift - You're Not Sorry

 This is just the right song to dump an ex with. I don't know what might have inspired Taylor Swift to write this song, (I heard she mostly use the experiences of her friends) but if I ever have to break up with any girl, I'll try very much to call in on a radio program, ask them to play this song in commemoration of my ended relationship, and dedicate the song to my Ex.

 But it's a beautifully great piece of Music, Nice lyrics, and If I'm asked to rate it, I'll give it a 10/10.

 But if she actually wrote this song after a guy broke up with her, I'm really sorry for such a fellow, and let this serve as a warning to Him, Whenever He sees me, He'd better run, because I will "treat His fuck-up."

Taylor Swift - You're Not Sorry (Video)

Taylor Swift - You're Not Sorry (Lyrics)

Song Of The Day: Tinie Tempah and Kelly Rowland - Invincible

They actually Look Cute together

  This is one Big song, It crosses different genre of Music, and combines the necessary to make it a great song in an almost perfect manner.

 Kelly Rowland selflessly give us her luscious voice, while Tinie Tempah takes it to a more serenading level. It's a nice song I'll recommend it for anyone who intends to win the love of he/her intended Lover.

 It's a very deep and insightful song, rich in lyrical content, and just the nice stuff to put you in a lovey-dovey mode.

Tinie Tempah and Kelly Rowland - Invincible (Video)

Tinie Tempah and Kelly Rowland - Invincible (Audio)

Tinie Tempah and Kelly Rowland - Invincible (Lyrics)

Am I Addicted To Love?

That Should be Me and My Miss in the Picture.

 Suddenly, everywhere I turn, I'm confronted with something that reminds me of Love (Not sex, please, there is a difference. We'll talk on that later.)
 My old crushes are showing up everywhere I turn, Female friends I have are suddenly seeming more hotter, (or cooler, depending on which generation you belong to.) And I'm meeting new female friends who are not helping my plight at all.
 I literally use to close my eyes whenever I see a really cute couple, but in recent times, that has been impossible. As much as I'll like to put an excuse to this, there is a fact that is impossible to ignore. I am getting older, (I actually turned 20 years old this year) and so are my friends. Thanks to my more developed mental capacity, physical attribute assessment and appreciation capacity, and most importantly, but also most dangerous of all is some hormone advancement. (I don't know the name for this hormones, because I'm not much of a science guy.)
I've come to some conclusion, hoping this will help in alleviating my plight.
 Firstly, I'll probably get a very soon. But there is a big challenge here. Thanks to the many beautiful, intelligent , mature, selfless, and motherly-hearted female friends I have, who I happen to be very close to, It is almost impossible for me to find a girl who can perfectly, or preferably, finely combine most of the positive attributes of my female friends. It is going to be very difficult, if not impossible for any girl to meet this high standard of perfection, which this girls have built in my mind. But then maybe I will meet a girl, who will make me just forget about all these standards and conditions altogether.
 Secondly, I might have to stop being friends with all my female friends, Maybe this will help me ignore more of my emotional need for companionship. But this might boomerang, as it might leave a bigger vacuum, making me an emotional wreck in the process, thereby hastening me to take a wrong decision of getting a girlfriend. In which case, I might end up getting the wrong girl.
 Thirdly, I will like to get married next year. I have told this to a couple of friends, and after listening to my argument, some have bought the idea, while others have out-rightly advised me against it. Which girl in her right mind will happen to marry a 21 year old guy, (I'll be 21 years old next year), who doesn't have a fortune to his name, (But he does have big ambitions), and is not even a university graduate yet. By my estimate, I will probably have to marry someone about three to five years older than I am, As most girls my age-mate still want to live their live, have fun, and be independent. What they want in a relationship is different from what I want. But if I'm lucky, I might just find a special "someone" who wants to begin to live her life with her "Soul-mate" early enough, to have th advantage of being "Pure, Innocent, or simply all the advantages of being a couple."
 Actually, I'll prefer if I find a girl who fits my "Dream-Girl Description", I date her, and she gets along well with my friends (male and female) as well as my family. Then Next year, probably August, we get married, and "Live Happily Ever After".

Song Of The Day: DJ Ironik - Stay With Me

The dude is also Handsome by the way

 If You've at any point heard that Westlife Song,
"Stay with Me,
Don't fall asleep too soon,
The Angels can wait for a moment, etc, etc."
 And if You in anyway have a love for Hip-Hop, then this is the song for You. Although if You are not a Hip-Hop head, You are still gonna love it.
 I sometime find it difficult to listen deeply to a song, but I'll still want to listen to something that sounds deep and familiar at the same time, at such moments, This song comes to my mind, and puts my mind to rest.
 It sure is a great song for deep thinking, reminiscing, inspiration, and preparation for a Big day.
Feel free to check the song out via the link provided below.

DJ Ironik - Stay With Me (Unofficial Video)

DJ Ironik - Stay With Me (YouTube link for Lyrics and Audio)

DJ Ironik - Stay With Me (Lyrics)

I'm In A Love Triangle

I hope the three of Us don't end up Like This.

Before I begin writing this Post, I'll like to say something: I actually hope two people never get to read this piece. Firstly, My Best Friend; Secondly, My Crush, who My Best-Friend happens to be interested in. On a second thought, I also hope My Wife and maybe My Children never get to read this too. because it might cause a lot of controversies in the future, especially if I can't write special piece for my wife. And Maybe My aunty, siblings, pastor and some of my co-workers never get to read this. Else this is surely gonna change their view of me.
Back to business. Over the years, I've had interest in a couple of girls, I just wanted to be more than friends with them, but with time, most of the feelings get washed away, while some of them persist, and manage to stay subdued over time.
But then, My best-friend happens to be a "ladies favorite". He meets a girl for the first time, and she falls head over heels for him. While I'm a sharp contrast to that, I'm more likely to be disliked by a lady whose just meeting me, (actually, most of the female friends I have, I meet under circumstances where we just had to get along with one another.)
One thing I'm happy about is that My friend (Let's call him "T" for the purpose of this discussion, except you read my previous piece on Him) doesn't "Over Use" this to his advantage. He respects these girls, treats them right, and tries to be best of friends with as many of them as possible.
Just like every other guy out there, T also has feelings for a number of this girls, Two of them actually, until recently when He meet a third one, who He has been crazy about (Which is very uncharacteristic of Him.)
I'll tell you more about the other girls, and His own dilemma in dealing with them some other times, but today, I'm gonna talk about only one of them. (Let's call her "F" just for the purpose of this discussion, except if you know the three of us personally, in which case I'll most probably be in big trouble).
I'll start right from the genesis of this whole palaver (i actually didn't know palaver is a correct English word until I checked my dictionary, I thought it was pidgin).
I started senior secondary school about a month later than most of my peers, then I was posted to a wrong class for over half of the academic session. When eventually I was transferred to the right class, I noticed a couple of things about this class (I'll write about it sometimes in the future.) and It was actually impossible not to notice this young, confident and vibrant young boy. I was actually sat right behind him, and we became friends. I also noticed this girl who always had a beret on, (Which was kinda uncommon in our class back then). She was beautiful, and had this lovely smile which was infectious.
The boy was "T" while the girl was"F". Before the end of our first year of school, there were lots of hook-ups in our class, as we had begun to notice the characters of each other, and get to know each other better.
"T" and "F" were mutually attracted to one another, but didn't exactly go into an official relationship, although they were as good as being a couple. They were even closer and more cute than most known couple in the class back then. But then, instead of openly showing affection for one another, they'll engage in public argument, and consistently take opposing sides on almost every discussion, but the chemistry between them was very visible to everyone.
After we finished secondary school, I, "T" and "F" got closer than before, and they still didn't have any official relationship, although they both admitted to having feelings for one another.
As I and "F" got closer, I began to have feelings for her, as I began noticing more positive sides of her, and I'll admit, she got even more beautiful (I don't know how that's even possible, because she was already too beautiful before.)
I believed if I leave this feeling unattended to, it will die a natural death, but each time we talked, chat, or I saw her pictures, I loved her even more. If she was somebody else, I will probably have told her about my feelings for her, but she is suppose to be in a relationship with my Best friend "T".
 I believe asking her out will amount to betraying the confidence and trust of My Best-Friend, although they never dated, and I don't see that happening soon, but then even if I date get to date her, I have this premonition, that she'll always compare me to "T" which might prove disastrous for our relationship, and cause constant conflict between "T" and I, which is something I'll rather avoid.
If I was to advice someone else who was in this same predicament, it may be easy doing that, but right now, I've decided to keep shunning my feelings, and remain best of friends with both "T" and "F". And this has also made me have a change of heart in the way I give people relationship advice.

Song Of The Day: Taylor Swift - Forever and Always (Piano Version)

Tell Me She's not Beautiful, and I might just Punch You in the Face.

 This Song will easily make it into a chart of my all time favorite Songs, this is despite the fact that I actually heard it very recently.
 It's a music of a undying Love a girl has for a boy. Interestingly, I can partially relate with it, because right now, I'm searching for love, and I'm in a big fix, as I'm caught up in a love triangle. (I'll talk more about it in my next post coming up in a few minutes hours.)
 The first/original version of this song sounds really great, but after removing all the other musical instrument, and singing the song accompanied by only a piano, the level of greatness of the song is only taken to a new and higher level.
 As a side-note, I'll say this is one lovely piece of music, from a very beautiful girl.
 Join me and enjoy the song, as I proceed on a quest to find a love that's gonna last me "Forever and Always".

Forever and Always "Piano Version" (Audio with Slide Show)

Forever and Always "Piano Version" (Audio from Myspace)

Forever and Always "Piano Version" (Lyrics)

Song Of The Day: Louis Armstrong - What A Wonderful World

 I heard this song for the first time on a movie. I noticed it but couldn't get the title during the credits. A few weeks later, I heard it for the second time on a friends system, but it was used on theater performance, so I couldn't get a clean audio.
 A few months later, I got it on a compilation of great love songs. And each time I listen to it, I just can't help but have this feeling of Hope, Love, Uplifted Spirit, Happiness, Satisfaction, and Appreciation for Nature.
 Hopefully, This is going to be one of the first songs I'll teach my children, because it is sure to make anyone love music, and appreciate life. Irrespective of age, color, race, religion or gender.
 Thanks to this song, I can now appreciate the little things of life, and think to myself, "What a Wonderful World."

Louis Armstrong - What A Wonderful World (Audio)

Louis Armstrong - What A Wonderful World (Video, Live Performance)

Louis Armstrong - What A Wonderful World (Lyrics)

Song Of The Day: Emi Ni - Rugged Man and Dagrin

Rugged Man and Da Grin

Of all Of DaGrin's Collaboration before His untimely demise, This song is very outstanding, as it has a whole load of hard core Hip-Hop touch, but is still easy to learn, comical in nature, and could easily be rated G, as in General (for all audience) or Gangster (Strictly for hardcore Hip-Hop fans).
You don't have to be a Rugged Man or DaGrin Fan to fall in Love with this song.
I've had the song on My P.C for a very long time, but listened to it for the first time a couple of days ago, and became addicted to it. Listening to only this song for a full day, Non stop. Nodding My head along with it, and laughing my head off.
Just a pity we do not have DaGrin around to keep reeling out this class of hit songs for us. Fit for clubs, house, radio, loud speaker, car ride, or private listening, with your head nodding to it.

Emi Ni - Rugged Man and Dagrin (Video)

Emi Ni - Rugged Man and Dagrin (Audio)

Song Of The Day: Jason Mraz - I'm Yours

Left to me, This song will win every award it is eligible to contend for, from Grammy, to MTV, to Channel O and what ever other award is out there.
It's just a perfect example of what a Love song should sound like.
It's just an endless confession of unlimited love from a Guy to His lovely Lady.
So "No need to hesitate no more, I'm Yours."

Jason Mraz - I'm Yours (Official Music Video)

Jason Mraz - I'm Yours (Live Performance)

Jason Mraz - I'm Yours (Audio)

Jason Mraz - I'm Yours (Lyrics)

Song Of The Day: Phil Collins - True Colors

This song is so cool, I just can't find the right combination of adjective to use in describing it, and not spoil the mood and special feelings of the song in the process.
To not be a kill joy, I'll just stop writing right now, and instead allow you enjoy the song.
This song is dedicated to everyone who loves somebody out there, especially, the "special someone" who called me earlier this evening.
I Love You and do see Your True Colors".

Phil Collins - True Colors (Official Music Video)

Phil Collins - True Colors (Performance backed by lara fabian)

Phil Collins - True Colors (Live Performance)

Phil Collins - True Colors (Lyrics)

Song Of The Day: Lil Wayne and Eminem - Drop The World

Lil Wayne and Eminem

 
 In My Honest Opinion, If Eminem and Lil Wayne partner on one song every year, it's likely they'll always win the best Hip-Hop collaboration of every major award organized every year. (Example, Drop the World and No Love.)
There's just this Indescribable and Uncommon Chemistry between them which is mostly lacking in collaborations between most big time artist.
IF there is only one lesson I learned from this song, it is this, What they say don't matter, It's all up to me, My decision is final.
And if You piss me off, I might just pick the world, and I might drop it on Your F**King Head.

Lil Wayne and Eminem - Drop The World (Video)

Lil Wayne and Eminem - Drop The World (Audio)

Lil Wayne and Eminem - Drop The World (Lyrics)

Lil Wayne and Eminem - Drop The World (Download)

Song Of The Day: Demi Lovato and Jonas Brothers- This is Me

This song is all about Love, Self Discovery, Personality, Self Confidence, Belief, and more of Love.
If You watch the movie "Camp Rock" then You're sure to fall in love with this song. I'll always love this song, as well as the chemistry between Demi Lovato and the Jonas Brothers. I hope to see more of them, preferably in a live concert.
(I also love the pretty face of Demi Lovato, She's just too pretty.)

Demi Lovato and Jonas Brothers- This is Me (Video, Movie Version)

Demi Lovato and Jonas Brothers- This is Me (Video, Live Performance)

Demi Lovato and Jonas Brothers- This is Me (Acoustic Version)

Demi Lovato and Jonas Brothers- This is Me (Live, World Tour)

Demi Lovato and Jonas Brothers- This is Me (Lyrics)

Song Of The Day: Asa - Why Can't We?

A free spirited Asa asks "Why can't we?"

 This is the Number 1 track on Asa's globally acclaimed successful album, "Beautiful Imperfection".
 The song is very philosophical, questioning the orientation of most people, and opening us to a new perspective of things.
 Lessons from this song are much and include the brevity of life, finding fulfillment and satisfaction, Man's quest for perfection, and many other things.
 A literature student can go through the lyrics as a poem and learn a lot from it, just as a philosopher or counselor can pick it up and use it to a teaching or correctional aid. Using it to change the lifestyle of a person who is sacrificing human relationship on the alter of success.
So, "Why can't we be happy?'

Asa - Why Can't We? (Video)

Asa - Why Can't We? (Acoustic Session)

Asa - Why Can't We? (Audio)

Asa - Why Can't We? (Lyrics)