A Friend In Need Is A _____

Attitude makes all the Difference in Giving and Receiving

 A Friend in need can mean a lot of things to a different people. That's why we say "Different strokes for different folks." The popular saying is that "A Friend in Need is a Friend Indeed."
But time and again, I've had reason's to disagree with this. I've been shown that just as He can be a "friend indeed," a friend in need can also be "a counselor, a confidant, a threat to You, or worse of all, A Pain in the Ass."
 Back to the original saying, a friend in need can be a friend indeed diverse ways, He can be Your truest friend, standing by Your side, attending to your every need, just to ensure He gets what he needs, while at the same time, He can begin to bring up everything he ever did for you. Even the inconsequential ones. The favors you never thought in Your wildest dreams will be mentioned ever again, some even go as far as bringing back to your memory embarrassing moments you shared together.
 The most annoying friends are split into two categories, there are some who will stick to you like a tick, almost walking in your legs, willing to do anything, even when you obviously do not need their help. It's worse if you are in public, as they seem to have lost all sense of decorum, and would gladly disgrace the both of You. They'll agree to whatever You say, take decisions for you, live for you (If Possible), and make Your life a living hell.
 The second and I'll say most annoying ones are those who act as if You owe it as a duty to them to satisfy whatever need they have. They'll threaten You, coerce you, cut you off, and even blackmail you just to get what they need. Most of the time they don't deserve the favors, but they'll just choose to be a pain in the neck, giving you unpleasantly surprise visits, and would even report you to everyone you know in common, telling them of how you are being selfish, proud and arrogant.
 I had an experience with someone recently, doing him a favor, and expecting him to meet me halfway across, finish up the stuff himself, but he was adamant that I should do all the work myself and send him the completed Job. This is in spite of the fact that doing it had already cost me unnecessary expenses. He was adamant, and when I insisted He come to collect his Job and finish it off Himself, he requested that I dispose of the whole project, as he will get what He needs elsewhere. I decided this was going to be the last time I'll ever do anything for him again. And I intend to keep my word.
 Just as "A Friend in Need can be A Friend Indeed",  so also "A Friend in Need can be A Pain in the Neck". It all comes down to wisdom, maturity, experience and attitude.

Song Of The Day: Jason Mraz - I'm Yours

Left to me, This song will win every award it is eligible to contend for, from Grammy, to MTV, to Channel O and what ever other award is out there.
It's just a perfect example of what a Love song should sound like.
It's just an endless confession of unlimited love from a Guy to His lovely Lady.
So "No need to hesitate no more, I'm Yours."

Jason Mraz - I'm Yours (Official Music Video)

Jason Mraz - I'm Yours (Live Performance)

Jason Mraz - I'm Yours (Audio)

Jason Mraz - I'm Yours (Lyrics)

Song Of The Day: Phil Collins - True Colors

This song is so cool, I just can't find the right combination of adjective to use in describing it, and not spoil the mood and special feelings of the song in the process.
To not be a kill joy, I'll just stop writing right now, and instead allow you enjoy the song.
This song is dedicated to everyone who loves somebody out there, especially, the "special someone" who called me earlier this evening.
I Love You and do see Your True Colors".

Phil Collins - True Colors (Official Music Video)

Phil Collins - True Colors (Performance backed by lara fabian)

Phil Collins - True Colors (Live Performance)

Phil Collins - True Colors (Lyrics)

Is It Worth It?

Is It Worth It?

To me, this is one of the most important question anyone and everyone should ask himself before taking any action, or decision.
Most times, what we benefit from what we do is not worth the price we paid for it, and we only realize this after paying the price (But in Life, the price we pay for our actions are non refundable).
From the moment we are born, we are made to realize that life is a race, and only the tough survive, and in the process of building up our toughness, dexterity, experience and ultimately success, we build and destroy relationship with different people, making contacts as well as losing some, but each relationship is unique in it's own way.
There is family, friends, business partnership, playmates, school and classmates, co-workers, spouses, and many other relationship. Although most people will not stay permanently in our life, The mistake most people make is not realizing who was meant to be permanent or temporal in their lives. We sell out those that were meant to be permanent, and keep those that are meant to be temporal, and only realize our mistake late in life, when it is almost impossible to correct this.
To me, Family is the most important relationship, from your parents and siblings, to your spouse, then your children, and friends. This people should never be sacrificed in your quest for success, because when you fall, they are meant to be there to catch you. But when you push them away, they'll have no room to be by your side and give you the necessary support.
Finally, if at any time you realize that you might have pushed away your family, or true friends, never feel ashamed to apologize to them (Preferably in person, and not on phone or email).
Never forget this, Your relationship with people will one day prove to be your most valuable possession.

Song Of The Day: Lil Wayne and Eminem - Drop The World

Lil Wayne and Eminem

 
 In My Honest Opinion, If Eminem and Lil Wayne partner on one song every year, it's likely they'll always win the best Hip-Hop collaboration of every major award organized every year. (Example, Drop the World and No Love.)
There's just this Indescribable and Uncommon Chemistry between them which is mostly lacking in collaborations between most big time artist.
IF there is only one lesson I learned from this song, it is this, What they say don't matter, It's all up to me, My decision is final.
And if You piss me off, I might just pick the world, and I might drop it on Your F**King Head.

Lil Wayne and Eminem - Drop The World (Video)

Lil Wayne and Eminem - Drop The World (Audio)

Lil Wayne and Eminem - Drop The World (Lyrics)

Lil Wayne and Eminem - Drop The World (Download)

I Think I'm Love Sick.

 The last couple of weeks has been the best and worst weeks of my life, but beneath it all, I have suddenly been having the most unusual feeling in my heart.
 It's something I've never felt before, It's so intense I find it impossible to ignore the feeling. I actually spent all my life ignoring and denying any feeling that might feel like love. I practically kill the feeling before it even buds.
 But in the last couple of weeks, I've been consistently been faced with this feeling again and again. But the only problem is I'm having the feeling for more than one person, it seems everyone I ever had special feelings for are suddenly showing up in my life, looking even more beautiful than they looked years ago, they sounded a lot more intelligent than they use too, and worse of it is they are not avoiding me, they all remain receptive and friendly towards me, and I'm continually feeling blessed to have them in my life.
 Only problem is out of about seven to ten people I'm having feelings for, I can only date one of them, as I have no intention of double dating or cheating on anyone, and I also want to have the right person as my date, as I don't want my present decision to have negative impact on me or anyone i the future.
 So I've decided to leave all of them and see which of them would get into a relationship with someone else, thereby reducing my options. But I have my fears.
 What if the person left actually has no interest in me? What if they all get into relationships before I can get back to them? What if I keep meeting more people like them, and I'm constantly having multiple options?
 I'll tell you all about each of these girls at a later time, but until then, I'll leave everything in God's hands.

Song Of The Day: Michael Bolton - When A Man Loves A Woman

 I've been searching for a song to describe exactly how I feel, then I listened to this song for the first time today. The song was unbelievably real, and describes exactly how I feel.
 To every lady who listens to this song, I want to let you in on a guys only secret, everything said in this song is actually true. If you see this signs signs in any guy, trust me, He's in love.

Michael Bolton - When A Man Loves A Woman (Video)

Michael Bolton - When A Man Loves A Woman (Lyrics)

First Date Ideas That are not Dinner, Movie, Or Drinks

Here are alternative Ideas for a first date that are least likely to leave you out of topics to discuss, or put you in akward positions. They also work for any other date, be it a couple or a group.

This article is culled from TheFrisky.com

1. Fly a kite.

2. Walk your dogs at the park or, if you don’t have dogs, watch the dogs at the dog park and discuss which ones you want to take home.

3. Volunteer — plant flowers with the Parks Dept., donate blood, or paint a school.

4. Play Scrabble at a coffee shop.

5. Go to a used bookstore and buy each other one book you think the person should read.

6. Take a hip-hop dance class.

7. Get a psychic reading or have your tarot cards read. Discuss the accuracy — or lack thereof — as a starting point for getting to know each other.

8. Have breakfast before work.

9. See a free outdoor concert.

10. Go to a book reading.

11. Go bowling — winner buys the beer.

12. Go for a hike and bird watch.

13. Play miniature golf.

14. Go gallery hopping and talk about which paintings you’d buy if you were rich.

15. Play ping-pong.

16. Be a tourist in your own city and visit a local attraction that neither of you has ever been to.

17. Ride bikes.

18. Tackle a rock climbing wall.

19. Karaoke!

20. Visit the Planetarium or Natural History Museum.

21. Learn to cook something yummy at the local culinary school.

22. If you’re going to eat dinner, do it progressively, which each course at a different restaurant.

23. Play hooky from work and have a picnic in the park.

24. Play chess at one of those outdoor tables.

25. Go somewhere with interesting scenery and sketch — then ask strangers to vote on whose drawing is better. Winner buys the loser a drink.


My Thoughts: I don't buy all this ideas, but I agree with most of them, Being in the public with a person makes you see parts of the person you'll normally miss when you are alone, and you are less tempted to commit immorality.
Remember, Stay safe, and stay away from pre-marital sex, It does more harm than good. and it in no way solidify your relationship. Don't let anyone deceive you.
Sleeping with you will not make him love you, it will only make him suspicious of you.
We'll talk more on such matters later.

Pre-Exam Prayers

 Tomorrow Morning, over a million people around and even outside Nigeria will be writing the entrance exam into Tertiary Institution.
 This is one of the most dreaded exams in the academical calender here in Nigeria, students spend over all of the three years of senior secondary school, and sometimes even more to prepare for it, This exam raises the confidence of people, makes their future and takes them from being boys to being men, at the same time, it has reduced "Big Boys" to "Little Babies". It even drives some people to the point of suicidal tendencies.
 Some people write this exam only once and get the desired results, while others have a couple of tries at it before getting their desired results, while some have written it over five, if not ten times, and are yet to gain the much sought after admission into Higher Institution of Learning.
 I happen to have a couple of friends (Over Five of them, including my best-friend as well as my younger sister who are writing this crucial exam tomorrow, some of them are confident, while others are scarred,  some of them are optimist, while others are pessimistic and skeptical. I do have a word for everyone of you, "Fear Not, God is with You".
 I pray you find favor tomorrow, find the exam easier, and meet questions from areas you have read.
 May God's Presence and Favor be with You, Go in Peace, The Lord is Your Strength.
 To All JAMB/UTME candidates, this is to wish you the very best, God bless you.

Song Of The Day: Whitney Houston - Greatest Love Of All

 Learning to Love yourself, Is the "Greatest Love Of All". This is one of the many lessons I learned from this timeless music.
 This is easily the greatest song Whitney Houston ever did, and to me, it remains one of the best song ever written in the history of mankind, both lyrically, production wise, and i any other way a music can be ranked.
 This song is loaded with endless lessons, right from the first line to the last, and it seems every line is actually filled with a timeless lessons.
 Please, even if you wouldn't listen to the song, please, take timeout to read the lyrics, it might change actually change your perception of Life forever.
 I strongly believe that if people will live by the principles outlined in this music, then we'll have a world filled with happier and more loving people.
 Remember, "The Greatest Love of All is Inside of You".

Whitney Houston - Greatest Love Of All (Video)

Whitney Houston - Greatest Love Of All (Live Performance "Grammy Awards, 1986")

Whitney Houston - Greatest Love Of All (Audio)

Whitney Houston - Greatest Love Of All (Lyrics)

Forgiveness VS Revenge

 Since time immemorial, it has been man's nature to offend his fellow man, this he does by word of mouth, or by action. But the question has always been after the offense, what next.....

 Are you supposed to let the culprit/offender go scot free, or do you avenge his actions? This is a question that has bewildered humanity since the beginning of time.

 Our reaction to this offense is affected by a lot of circumstances, like what is the gravity of the offense? where did it happen? who were those present there? Who committed the offense? and many other factors.

 Deciding to revenge most times seems the right and logical thing to do, you feel if I don't exert my revenge, people will see me as a weak person, and others will want to treat me in the same manner this offender did. But if I revenge his acts, people will accept that I'm a tough guy, and they''ll stay out of my way, they'll never want to cross paths with me.
 The only problem is this, your revenge might lead to other chain reactions, leading to a back and forth exchange of offenses and revenges. Whereras, forgiving the offender will make him respect you, he'll see you in a new light, as the bigger fellow, who can put past incidents behind him and forge intp the future.
 Sometimes, someone offends us unkowingly, and it never crosses his mind to apologise, as he's not aware of your reaction or view to his action, and you are plotting to revenge on him.
 It is actually more profitable to forgive an offender than to exert revenge on him, cos in most instances, it takes and cost nothing  to forgive, while you'll actually spend time and mental capacity, (and sometimes even money) to plot out a revenge.
 When you forgive someone, your heart carries less burden, and you can focus you mental as well as physical and finacial capacity into other profitable ventures.
 In most cases, it will do you more good than loss or hurt to Forgive, than to Revenge.
Remember a line of the "The Lord's Prayer" which says....
"And forgive us our sins; for we also forgive every one that is indebted to us. " Luke 11 : 24

Song Of The Day: Naeto C and Asa- Share My Blessings.

To me, this is the best song Naeto C ever put his voice on. As much as I love his other works, they all pale in Comparison to this. I believe it's the "Asa Factor" or how else do I describe it.

He did something he has never done on any of his songs. The Lyrics were educational, Positive, Moral and Inspirational.

But each time Asa takes her part, Most especially the bridge, the feeling is simply "Out of this World."

First time I listened to this song, I felt goose-bumps (This hardly happens to me) That was how powerful and enchanting it was, I had to listen to it for the rest of the day.

Practically speaking, I actually put it on replay for over 12 Hours in one day. Take a few minutes to listen to it, you may learn a lesson or two from it (I learned to value everyone I love.)

Feel free to share with us what you learned from the song.

Naeto C. and Asa: Share My Blessing

LYRICS:

Naeto C

All white kaftan like the stripe on a tom tom
See how we got famous where we come from
walahi it's from teaspoons to lump sums - What a conundrum!
All I did was make plans like when ABC bus comes
Now they saying tread softly with caution
You attract the wrong people when they know about your fortune
I’m worried maybe that will be my portion.
I don’t need a new cut to feel level headed
My experience has justified where I’m headed
So when they talk about the things that I do wrong
I just pat them on the back like a new born
Cos that’s the rumor starts to spread like a bed sheet
I’m calculating money on excel spread sheets.
I’m too blessed to be stressed
So I’m giving out some love cos I'm getting it in excess
Now that you could respect.

Hook

It’s moving over me
It’s taking over me
And I’m feeling my way up now.

When heaven puts a hand on me
Come and share my blessings.

Naeto C

Firstst day of the year
my best-friend died in a car crash.
Couple of months before that, I survived in a car crash.
Now that's the irony of life
She was good enough to be a wife
I only cry once a year but that year, I cried thrice.
So dear friend, let me give you an advice
Keep your loved ones close cos they won't live twice
I should have told her how I felt but I couldn't be precise.
I didn't reply her emails even though she broke down her feelings in detail.
I was busy dealing with all sorts of female
Now it's hard for me to even open up my g.mail
I wish she had the same luck as me
but that's what i couldn't give unluckily.
And so I pray that my blessings extend
to the rest of my family and friends.

Hook

It’s moving over me
It’s taking over me
And I’m feeling my way up now.

When heaven puts a hand on me
Come and share my blessings.


Asa

Gbogbo ohun tan fe
...iyen lan fe f'omode ati awon agba
Eh Iya mi
Ireti mi
Koni dofo
Koni daru
Lai

I'm moving on
This little light of mine
I'm gonna let it shine (let it shine)

Hook

It’s moving over me
It’s taking over me
And I’m feeling my way up now.

When heaven puts a hand on me
Come and share my blessings.

la la la la la la
yes Boss!

WHAT I HATE THE MOST?

There are somethings which I just find "Impossible" to bear. Some people might feel the word "HATE" might be too strong to describe these feelings, but trust me, this thing hurts more than you think.
It happens that I'm, in a position to change some of these "Situations" but, I just cant help some of them. And even when I try to run away from them, they begin to vehemently put their faces in mine.
I'm gonna share a number of them with you, and you can share yours by leaving a comment below.

I hate it when My Boss who happens to be a novice on a subject keeps pushing a wrong decision/view at me.
(Sometimes, I feel like punching him in the face, but that might cost me my job.)
I hate it when an Adult authoritatively displays his/her foolishness.
(Sometimes I try to correct them, but they'll mostly use their age as a reason they should be wiser than me, while some will even claim experience is the best teacher.)

I hate it when Someone repeatedly refuses to take correction.

(Dude, no one is an Island of knowledge. You shouldn't hoard it, neither should you refuse new ones. It's impossible to know everything, but it's possible to learn something New.)

I hate it when Someone tells a lie right to my face.
(Sometimes, I already know the truth, but will keep leading the person on, just for the fun. But it gets a lot more annoying when the person in question is openly trying to make a fool of you.)
I hate it when I'm telling the truth to a person, but the person just wouldn't believe me.

(Excuse me Sir/Miss, Not everybody that lie like you do, so believing me might just do you some good.)

I hate it when The Person I'm trying to ignore keeps putting himself in my face.
(Irrespective of the fact I'm actually shunning, ignoring, shutting or even giving him the "silence treatment" He just won't get the message.)
I hate it when I'm trying to talk to a girl, and she believes I'm hitting on her.
(Is there nothing else a guy can talk to a girl about other than asking her out or hitting on her? come on.... Even when I'm trying to ask for directions, she's busy trying to "form levels." If I wanted to ask you out, I'll not be asking all the questions, I'll be forthright with you)
I hate it when a girl I'm not interested in keeps throwing herself at me.
(Ladies, please, if he's not interested let him be. If I'm not interested, someone else will surely someone else will be. So just let me be.)
I hate it when someone wants to force me to love a song.
(We don't share the same brain, so I wouldn't necessarily love everything you love. Your best choice might be the worst to me, this shouldn't make you pick offense. And if I tell you I don't like it, then put it off or listen to it alone.)
N.B: This also applies to books, movies, artist, athletes, sports, clubs, videos, and every other thing.
I hate it when an established artist begins to put out trash songs.
(Do they take us for fools. You are a success today doesn't mean we the fans will follow your lead blindly. If you have no sensible song, just shut up, and we'll continue to celebrate your past glories.)
I hate it when a person continually puts up with an undeserving spouse.
(Relationships are meant to be enjoyed and not endured. He makes your life a liveing hell, cheats on you, beats you, treats you like trash, then what are you still doing with him? Trust me, there are over a thousand and one guy who'll be happy to have you. Leave him alone and move on with your life.)
N.B: This also applies to guys. And no Guy or Lady is so good that You'll die if you don't date her. GROW UP PLEASE.
There are still a lot of them, but I'll leave the rest for another day.

The fact is the things sometimes act as comic relief to me, but when it gets over-bearing it begins to piss me off.Feel free to share with us some acts, habits, or things that annoy you.

Song For The Day: T.I and Chris Brown - Get Back Up

This is My song for the day, It describes exactly How I'm feeling.
It's a song for everyone who's stuck at the bottom of life's cycle, It's a song of hope and encouragement for the despairing, It's a song of succor.
The most important lesson I learned from the song is that in our strive for perfection and success, we'll make a lot of mistakes, we'll go through the ups and downs of life, but it's our response to such situations that makes all the difference.
No matter the mistake you have made, or the situation you find yourself in, don't give-up, as lond as there is still breath in you, then there should still be a will, desire and strength to keep the struggle going.
Never Forget, "When they Push You down, You'd better get back Up."

T.I and Chris Brown - Get Back Up (Video)

T.I and Chris Brown: Get Back Up (Audio)

Here's the Lyrics:
T.I ft Chris Brown – Get Back Up Lyrics

[T.I]
I’m only human dawg
I’m only human dawg
I’m only human dawg

[Chris Brown]
Can you forgive me
It’s an SOS to let me be me

[T.I]
ay, ay, ay listen to me
And when they push you down,
you got to get back up
And when they push you down,
you got to get back up

[T.I]
Push the dirt off your jersey than go for the cup
or the trophy or the ring, champion no matter what
cause when you got the belt and the ring
people with ya poppin bottles, taking pictures look around
as soon as you fall down all the haters pass a judgement
surprise, i’m here to show that I’ma rise above this

Ay, what it is World
yeah it’s me again, back before you, at your mercy
don’t bend your knee again, no running from the truth
as much as we pretend, that it aint what it is, than it hits CNN
apologies to my fans and my closest friends, (I’m sorry)
for letting you down, I wont take you down this road again
most of you now saying whatever, here we go again
blogs, radio, and television all going in
I laugh to keep from crying through all of the embarrasment
I gotta say you f-cking haters is hilarious
how dare you sit right there and act as if you holier than thou
point your finger now with me looking down
same clown that was twitpic’ing at my wedding
on the same twitter page disrespecting
wait a second (hold up)
never mind my imperfections this is fact, remember that
no mistakes too great to recover and bounce back

[Chris Brown]
and when they push you down, you got to get back up
and when they push you down, you got to get back up

[T.I]
Push the dirt off your jersey than go for the cup
or the trophy or the ring, champion no matter what
cause when you got the belt and the ring
people with ya poppin bottles, taking pictures look around
as soon as you fall down all the haters pass a judgement
surprise, i’m here to show that I’ma rise above this

[T.I]
I admit, yeah, I done some dumb sh-t,
disappointed everybody I know
try not to hold that against me though
my road to redemption has no GPS
so guess the time must be invested for this to be manifested
yes it’s hard living life in the spotlight
trying to dodge the haters same time as the cop light
the bible say “let he without sin cast the stone first” (stone first)
the sinner or the one who judged him, who was wrong first?
yeah he go to work, never done no drugs or to be fair
he just drink his liquor, touch his kids, beat his wife instead
difference is, my shortcomings hit the media
thanks to TMZ, the AJC and Wikipedia
see the stairway to heaven while stepping down Jacob’s ladder
my good outweigh the bad, God, aint that what really matters, nope
a matter of fact I’m wrong but after that the good i’ve done in your hood
should it overshadow that?
got the World laughing at me for the moment
but it gonna be your turn ‘fore it’s over with
even if you so legit that you get a house with a dog and a picket fence
the people with you then but when they turn on you remember this

[Chorus]
Push the dirt off your jersey than go for the cup
or the trophy or the ring, champion no matter what
cause when you got the belt and the ring
people with ya poppin bottles, taking pictures look around
as soon as you fall down all the haters pass a judgement
surprise, i’m here to show that I’ma rise above this

[Chris Brown]
Hello, out there
can you hear me
can you hear me
ah, ah, ah, ah
can you (hear you)
hello, out there,
can you hear me
you gotta get you
you gotta gotta believe in me
hey

[T.I]
I accept full responsibilty for the all the wrong I’ve done
If y’all thought I were perfect
I apologise for being human man
but never again partner
you can put my life on that

[Chorus]

And you can love me, or you can leave me
before you judge me, just let me be me
and you can love me or either leave me
before you judge me, see life aint easy
[End]