Stop Over Sexing Us.

 I don't know where the idea of using sex as a sub-theme, or point of attraction for marketing every product came from. But one thing I'll say, Whoever is the originator of that idea deserves to be flogged in the public.
 It is almost impossible to avoid the picture of a half-naked, (sometimes, even naked) lady every where I go. It is staring at me from the Billboard, the magazine cover, the center-fold of almost every newspaper, almost all adverts I come across, as well as products pack. And to these promoters and packagers, it doesn't even matter what product it is, they just can't wait to sex it up as much as possible. From T-shirt, to toothpaste, to toiletries, to food, to sport merchandise, to even schools. You name it, before you count up to ten of it's adverts, you are sure to find one with a half-nude lady, or shirtless guy on it. I actually would not be surprised to find a Church advertising it's service with something like this, or even a funeral home. (Although I'm surely going to get even more offended.)
 For goodness sake, not every product needs to be sexed before we'll purchase it, some of us are actually offended by this stuffs, as they do a great damage to young people, who might want to remain chaste, as it puts them under immense pressure to engage in sexual activity.
 It puts a big strain on relationships, as well as marriages,  as some women cannot stand their spouse staring at the almost naked image of another woman, even when the guy is not aware of it, but it just happens to be in his line of view.
 It is in almost every movie as well as musical video we see on both satellite and terrestrial T.V. Images that a few years back will be rated for adult viewing only, are now rated PG, and in some instances, they are even deemed fit for general viewing. Time and again, parents as well as kids have felt embarrassed, when an inappropriate image pops up on the screen, and it's actually impossible to take it off.
 This act has a lot of damaging effect on our society, and most dangerous of it is that it trivialize sex, making it loose it's role, value and importance, thereby making the younger generation who might have engaged in it loose value for family structure. It also make the youth loose the respect they are suppose to have in an appropriate manner for the opposite sex, as they most of the time feel they've seen it all.
 This is a plea to content providers, movie and music makers, advertisers, as well as regulatory agencies. Please, be kind enough to reduce, or as much as possible remove sexual content from your product. It will do us more good than bad. Help us save our society, Help us preserve decency, and the small form of humaneness left in us. Thank You.

Good News in Bad Times

Thanks to Good News, I can Laugh at My Troubles

 There are somethings in nature that just cannot be explained. But in the midst of all the unexplainable contrast we see in Nature, I've come to make a wonderful discovery.
 When I make a decision to sacrifice something in the present, to take care of the future, it sometimes seems risky, foolish, and overtly dangerous. Last year October, I and a couple of friends decided to go into a joint venture, we were to pool together our resources to cover the expense of this little business. This is despite the fact that none of us had any experience setting up or running a business, but we all shared the passion.
 Between October 2011 and today, we've raised and spent more than we thought any of us could possibly imagine. Due to some unforeseen circumstances, we have still not completed the setting up of this business, and this has put a big financial burden on Me, as I happen to be at the center of this activity.
 Thanks to this set back, the last three months for me has been a big nightmare, as I'm faced with uncertainties everyday, as well as frustration, anger, disappointment and despair. But I never regret any action I take, so I just wake up everyday put down the cares of the previous day, and continue with my daily life.
 But the month of April was filled with pleasant surprises for me, as I was privileged to have more reasons to smile, On the first day of the month, A very close friend of mine, (more like my sister than a friend) had a beautiful baby girl. This filled me with Joy and Gladness, as this proved to be a very good tiding, in the midst of a trying time. Then in the middle of the month, another friend of mine had a wonderful baby boy, making me happier, and giving me more reason to continue with my struggle, and making me more of a happy man.
 Every morning, I wake up to this gloomy world, and remember this beautiful children, and my face is lit with a great smile, as I realize that there is a silver lining at the end of every cloudy sky.
 To everyone out there who is going through difficult times,  just take a few minutes to look around you, and I'm sure you'll find a reason to smile, it might seem like a very little or silly reason, but just enjoy that moment and smile, because "Tough times don't last, but Tough people do".
 God bless and strengthen You.

One Thing I Wish I Can Change

 I never look back at whatever I have done with regrets or wishing I could go back to change things. I simply take an action, if it turns out right, I enjoy it, if it doesn't, I'll still go with the flow. But there is one exception to this.
 Right now, One thing I wish I had taken more seriously, The only thing I reminisce upon and wish I had done right, That one thing which if I had the chance, I'll do differently, is simply, "My dental hygiene."
 When I was younger, I refused all of my parents advice to take good care of my teeth. Whenever it was holiday period, or weekends, I simply forgot about brushing my teeth, and will only brush it whenever they insisted I will not eat, except I brush.
 I felt like it was an unnecessary punishment, and right now, I'm paying the price for that. For the last couple of years, I've been having serious tooth pain (Thank God it is not Mouth Odor, that will simply have made me feel a lot worse.) but nevertheless, it still hurts. Last week Thursday, I couldn't sleep from all the pain it was causing me, this made me have a bad day in the morning.
 So now, I'm saving up some money to visit the dentist, and see what he (Hopefully not a she) can do about it. I've also resolved that when I do have children, they are going to take their dental hygiene serious, whether they like it or not.
 Seeing people with glistening white teeth smile just makes me happy (I'm kinda self conscious when I smile or laugh) and I'll want my children to be able to smile proudly (on my behalf.)
 So parents out there, please, teach your children the importance of dental hygiene, make them realize that it is for their own good.

Word For The Day: 28-March-2012

Every Saint has a past,
And Every Sinner has a Future.
-Unknown Writer

Song Of The Day: D.J Khaled & Others - All I Do Is Win

 Tonight's song is dedicated to all the candidates of Tomorrows JAMB/UTME exam in Nigeria. I want you all to be in a positive mood, and enjoy the Night before your exam.
 Use tonight's song to take away the pressure of your preparations for the exam and confess something positive into your life.
 Remember, "All We'll Do Is Win, No Matter What!!!"

D.J Khaled & Others - All I Do Is Win (Video)

D.J Khaled & Others - All I Do Is Win (Remix Video)

D.J Khaled & Others - All I Do Is Win (Audio)

D.J Khaled & Others - All I Do Is Win (Lyrics)

The Innocent Loving Heart Of A Child.

 The child is easily God's most beautiful creation, (Other than Heaven) a child is an epitome of perfection, he is an imagery of innocence, and a pictorial representation of Humanity at it's best.
 Children have a heart filled with love, care, tenderness, innocence, humility, confidence, and every positive attribute that could ever be present in any man.
 No matter the level of  offense you might commit towards a child, the child might leave you alone in anger, hurt and distraught, but in a matter of hours, if not minutes, the child is sure to comeback to you, forgetting about the past, and acting as if everything you did never happened.
 No matter what you own or do not own, if you give a child the opportunity, he is sure to love you selflessly, without fear, and with all purity of heart.
Children do not care about your past, they have a bright and beautiful picture about the future, they believe irrespective of the past, they can be whatever they want to in the future, they are willing to share what they have selflessly, and will do whatever it takes to pro protect a friend.
 Children will love with all sincerity, and there love is not blinded by lust, selfishness, negativity, race, religion, political affiliation, ethnicity, or any other prejudice.
 To a child, things only fall into two categories, good or bad. There is nothing like "complicated" in their dictionary, if it is not good, then it is bad, and vice versa.
 It is simply impossible not to fall in love with a child, and if at any point you fall you are losing touch with your humane side, just take time out to look at the children around you, spend time in their midst, trust me it's gonna be a life changing experience.
 Here's what the bible has to say about children:
Matthew 18 : 3 - 5 And said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven. Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven.  And whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receiveth me."
Matthew 19:14 But Jesus said, Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.

 From this verses, I learned a very important lesson, "Children are God's way of teaching adults the most important lessons."

Song Of The Day: Whitney Houston - Greatest Love Of All

 Learning to Love yourself, Is the "Greatest Love Of All". This is one of the many lessons I learned from this timeless music.
 This is easily the greatest song Whitney Houston ever did, and to me, it remains one of the best song ever written in the history of mankind, both lyrically, production wise, and i any other way a music can be ranked.
 This song is loaded with endless lessons, right from the first line to the last, and it seems every line is actually filled with a timeless lessons.
 Please, even if you wouldn't listen to the song, please, take timeout to read the lyrics, it might change actually change your perception of Life forever.
 I strongly believe that if people will live by the principles outlined in this music, then we'll have a world filled with happier and more loving people.
 Remember, "The Greatest Love of All is Inside of You".

Whitney Houston - Greatest Love Of All (Video)

Whitney Houston - Greatest Love Of All (Live Performance "Grammy Awards, 1986")

Whitney Houston - Greatest Love Of All (Audio)

Whitney Houston - Greatest Love Of All (Lyrics)

Forgiveness VS Revenge

 Since time immemorial, it has been man's nature to offend his fellow man, this he does by word of mouth, or by action. But the question has always been after the offense, what next.....

 Are you supposed to let the culprit/offender go scot free, or do you avenge his actions? This is a question that has bewildered humanity since the beginning of time.

 Our reaction to this offense is affected by a lot of circumstances, like what is the gravity of the offense? where did it happen? who were those present there? Who committed the offense? and many other factors.

 Deciding to revenge most times seems the right and logical thing to do, you feel if I don't exert my revenge, people will see me as a weak person, and others will want to treat me in the same manner this offender did. But if I revenge his acts, people will accept that I'm a tough guy, and they''ll stay out of my way, they'll never want to cross paths with me.
 The only problem is this, your revenge might lead to other chain reactions, leading to a back and forth exchange of offenses and revenges. Whereras, forgiving the offender will make him respect you, he'll see you in a new light, as the bigger fellow, who can put past incidents behind him and forge intp the future.
 Sometimes, someone offends us unkowingly, and it never crosses his mind to apologise, as he's not aware of your reaction or view to his action, and you are plotting to revenge on him.
 It is actually more profitable to forgive an offender than to exert revenge on him, cos in most instances, it takes and cost nothing  to forgive, while you'll actually spend time and mental capacity, (and sometimes even money) to plot out a revenge.
 When you forgive someone, your heart carries less burden, and you can focus you mental as well as physical and finacial capacity into other profitable ventures.
 In most cases, it will do you more good than loss or hurt to Forgive, than to Revenge.
Remember a line of the "The Lord's Prayer" which says....
"And forgive us our sins; for we also forgive every one that is indebted to us. " Luke 11 : 24

Love 101: What Is Love?

(Before reading this piece, I strongly advice you get a copy of today's Song Of The Day, Bob Marley's I s This Love? a.k.a "I wanna Love You". It will help you understand, flow with and articulate this piece.)
Love is easily one of the most misused words in the history of mankind, it is defined in different way by different people, under different context, and in different circumstances.
Everyone has his/her own definition of what love is, but it remains one of the most difficult questions to answer, I'll try my best to answer it, you might not agree with my definition, but feel free to tell us what love means to you.
Love is the indescribable feeling of unexplainable connection between two individuals.
It's not describable, cos it's a feeling that's just impossible to be appropriately described, and it's unexplainable cos it's better felt and expressed than explained.

I made a compilation of my favorite definitions and description of what love, (which I've culled from different internet posts over the years) and I'm happy to share it with you.

A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds,
'What does love mean?'
The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined
See what they think:

'When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love.'
Rebecca- age 8
'When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.'
Billy - age 4
'Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.'
Karl - age 5
'Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.'
Chrissy - age 6
'Love is what makes you smile when you're tired.'
Terri - age 4
'Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.'
Danny - age 7
'Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that.
They look gross when they kiss'
Emily - age 8
'Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.'
Bobby - age 7
'If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,'
Nikka - age 6
'Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.'
Noelle - age 7
'Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.'
Tommy - age 6
'During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore.'
Cindy - age 8
'My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.'
Clare - age 6
'Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.'
Elaine-age 5
'Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.'
Chris - age 7
'Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.'
Mary Ann - age 4
'I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.'
Lauren - age 4
'When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.' (what an image)
Karen - age 7
'Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross.'
Mark - age 6
'You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.'
Jessica - age 8

And the final one

The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.
Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.
When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said,
'Nothing, I just helped him cry'

WHAT IS LOVE?
LOVE IS:
The strongest feeling known
The all-compassing passion
An extreme strength
An overwhelming excitement

LOVE IS:
Trying not to hurt the other person
Trying not to change the other person
Trying not to dominate the other person
Trying not to deceive the other person

LOVE IS:
Understanding each other
Listening to each other
Supporting each other
Having fun with each other.

One Baptist preacher has aptly said:
“Love is not a namby-pamby, loosy-goosy, warm and fuzzy feeling. That’s Hollywood love. That’s sub-teen puppy love.. . . Love is not a warm glow in the gut; that’s probably heartburn. . . . Love is more than tender words and affectionate glances. Love is more than gracious gestures, good table manners, and finely-tuned social skills. Love is more than feel-good.Love is self-sacrifice. Love is giving beyond what you have to give and moving into what you want to give.”

 "Where There’s Love.":

Where There’s Love . . .
There’s an elegance of simplicity
An affluence of frugality
And a display of humility
Where There’s Love . . .
It is home in its true place
Even outside its own race
Destined there by divine grace
Where There’s Love . . .
It calms every fear
Provides a listening ear
And wipes the sobbing tear
Where There’s Love . . .
Compassion is its fight
Gentleness is its might
And forgiveness is its right
Where There’s Love . . .
Its friendship is very real
Risking all is no big deal
For helpfulness is its zeal
Where There’s Love . . .
Innocence is its age
Childlike trust is its face
And patience is its pace
Where There’s Love . . .
It finds excuses to share
And offers a daily prayer
For God to keep it from care

In conclusion, Love is more than what most people take it to be, in subsequent posts, we'll talk more about what love is, and what it is not.


It is best we stop striving to define love, and instead look for an appropriate way to express it.

Remember.....
God Is Love....
Love Is All.