HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!

Grab a glass and share this toast with me

 WOW!!!!!!!!!!!! I finally crossed over into 2013. I know I'm a couple of weeks late, but I had to stay over in 2012 to sort out some personal issues, and now I'm through with them, I can finally begin my 2013.
 It will be very ordinary for me to begin this new year like any other, so I've taken time to sort out some pretty personal stuffs, and I've decided to share with everyone. I'll start off by giving a new year shout out to everyone who made my 2012 memorable. Hopefully, 2013 would be even more LEGENDARILY-AWESOME. In no particular order, or in order of my favorites (anyhow you want it.) Here are the people who made my year.
 Tobisco: Yea, right, my best friend in the whole world. He shared my best and worst moments with me, challenged and encouraged me, prevented me from making a fool outta myself lots of time, and most importantly, has been a part of my search for "The One". He is easily one of the best and most important piece of my life for about three to five years now. When I do get married (Sometimes later this year "fingers crossed") He is going to be my bestman. I hope we do get to rock the year 2012 Bro style.
 My Parents: I'll tell anyone who cares to listen, If every child gets the kinda support, love and upbringing my parents gave me, The world is surely gonna be a better place. I've never regretted having them in my life over the last twenty one years, and hopefully this year things will only get better. They are one of the main reason I'm closer to my goals now than I ever was. I pray 2013 gives us a lot more reason to celebrate.
 My Aunty: Anyone who knows my aunty, Aunty Justina, would know how much of a wonderful person she is. She oozes of awesomeness. I think having her in my life gives me an edge over others. Seriously though, she helps make life choices easier, keeps me thinking straight, and comes to my rescue whenever necessary. I pray she gets all she desires this year, and hope I can give her more reasons to be happy.
 My Siblings: Those guys rock, funny moment, tiring moments, best elder brother in the world, Theo, and really crazy younger ones, and a really lovely younger sister.
 Ada Obi a.k.a Derby: She's my female best friend. Straight up and simple. She changed a lot of things about me, giving me a new perspective, and allowing me to see things better from the female perspective. I hope we do get closer this year, and she gets happier over the days. She's a really great friend, and I value her over most.
 Fela & John X: Those are my two best friends in Senior and Junior Secondary School respectively. 2012 wasn't Our best year together, but I did get closer to John X, while Fela went off to the University. This two guys were pivotal in shaping me during the most fragile period of my life, primarily during my pre-teen and early teenage years. I hope we get to hang out more often this year, cos I do miss our stimulating and crazy conversations.
 Princess Bose: In April 2012, I got a news that closes a chapter of my life, and opened the door to a new future. Thanks to this news item, I now saw myself from a new perspective, and although it was kinda disappointing (as in selfishly speaking) It still remained the best news of the year 2012 to me. Yea, my classmate from senior secondary school, and one of my long time crushes had given birth to a beautiful baby girl. Now before any of my class mates from high school begin the whole "wow, crush" talk, seriously, which of you guys never had a crush on Bose. If you didn't you gotta get yourself checked out. In all sincerity, I'm still jealous and angry with her baby daddy. Seriously, the dude just stole Bose right from under our noses, or should I say right outta my face. But then, that was a great reason to smile in 2012, and baby Joanne is looking beautiful and doing well. Just one warning for Daniel. Bro watch your back, if you slack at all, this dude is gonna be taking your place.
 J.C a.k.a Mummy Toba: Whoever coined that saying that beauty and brains don't go together for female folks probably never met Jacinta. She puts that saying to shame with her royal-like beauty. We did a lot of talking over the years, and each time we talk, I respected her more. And Yes, I do have a crush on her. She's one of the peeps that made my year, because every minute I spent with her, was totally worth it.
 Bukky: I wonder what the last five years of my life would be like if I should take her out of it. Last year, she was easily the girl I spent the most time with. It's funny how anyone would be willing to spent time with me. Seriously, I've you met me. I can really be tiring and boring at time, not to add that I can be obstinate and frustrating at time. But she's one of the reason I didn't end up constantly tweeting or updating my Facebook status as "Bored". Now she's off to school, I think it's high time to get that girlfriend.
 Funmilayo: You know how there are some people you are permitted to get very close to, but you should never try being anything more than friends with? Yea, I've got mine to, and her name is Funmilayo. She's one of those girl that are impossible to hate. Only problem is she is an "for your eyes only" person to me. Thanks to some circumstances beyond my control, I'm supposed to, and will remain off limits, but best of friends with her.
 Joy Ikegudu: Any of my classmate in secondary school will remember the one girl Joshua never saw eye to eye with on any issue. We just were never meant to be friends. It doesn't matter what was at stake, be it something as simple as who did or didn't speak, or something as complicated as Politics or School Subject, we just must be on opposing sides. Nothing could make us agree. I can't remember the genesis of our conflict, but now that I look back, I just might have an idea. But the year 2012 was the year of miracles. Y'all know how people are saying Luis Suarez and Patrice Evra shaking hands was a miracle, Ours must be an Epic Miracle, just as we mysteriously became enemies (or should I say rivals) we just became best of friends. We've spent time together, on the phone, and unbelievable as this might sound, I sometimes miss her.
 Blessing: If I'm asked to pick a female friend of mine that is on the threshold of becoming the next superstar, my answer is bound to be Blessing. Man, this girl can sing. Although I've known her for over five years now, I got to know her better in 2012, and I can actually say she's a really wonderful girl. From what I heard, she dances just as well as she sings, although I've never seen her dance. I'll try to spend more time with her, and attend some events she'll be performing at. I'll like to believe that y'all will be seeing a lot of her this year.
 Cosmos, Jerry & Timothy: All of my life, I've known this guys, and thankfully, I've never had a reason to regret that. We've spent the last fifteen months pursuing a common goal which once completed will be our first step to changing (or should I say taking over) the Nigerian Entertainment Industry's landscape. Y'all should just stay tuned to your Radio, T.V, Internet, Magazines and Newspapers, because I can assure you, You don't wanna miss out on the GIG Entertainment whirlwind, which is about to sweep the nation (or we just might take over the world while we are at it). All I ask of you is to give us all the support you can.
 Fola "4lah" Folayan a.k.a Boss Lady: If you are an ardent listener of Nigerian Info, then there is no way you could have miss out on knowing the "Boss Lady". The year 2012 saw me stumbling on a revolution on the internet. #DearArtiste. I don't know how many of y'all might have heard of this,but Fola has in her little way been giving advice to artiste who are still trying to get that "big break" in the music industry. It started as just twits from her twitter handle, but has grown to being a twitter handle, a website, a family, a movement, a revolution, and a source of hope and inspiration to lots of people. I have a feeling that 2013 will see lots of artistes take this avenue as a stepping stone to becoming big time superstars. I've learned a lot from her, and know a lot of young people out there have done the same. I pray God continues to strengthen and empower her and her team at Dear Artiste.
 Andre Blaze, Vector and Eva Alordiah: One of my reasons for looking forward to 2013 was my hope that I'll finally get to work with three of my favorite peeps in the entertainment industry. Two of my favorite music albums from 2012 were GIGO from Eva Alordiah, and BARracks from Vector. As much as it as become very difficult to listen to complete albums of Nigerian artists without being tempted to skip tracks, Eva and Vector just ensured I kept listening to their songs nonstop, giving me a swell time, and making the times spent alone bearable. Andre Blaze on the other hand finally came back to terrestrial T.V with the show Nigeria's Got Talent. Seriously, it was fun to see Andre Blaze back on my T.V screen, since I don't have a D.S.T.V to watch Nigezie. And he didn't disappoint, as he was actually my main attraction to the show (although I never tire of watching Kate Henshaw). I hope to see a Vector and Eva Alordiah collaboration, maybe even a joint album, just as much as I still dream of finally hearing Andre Blaze rap. (There have been talks of a mix tape some times ago). And I pray to work with this talented trio someday soon. Just as I wish them a fruitful 2012.
 To all my special peeps, like Chinelo, Chinasa, Chinyere, Adetoun, Ibrahim, Chukwudi, Chidebere, Anslem, Uduak, Vero, Chuks, and all the other guys I failed to write your names here. Y'all are important to me too.
 Then there are the peeps I work with, watch football with, and meet everyday. I've learned valuable lessons from each one of you, shared great moments with you, and look forward to a great year with y'all.
 To everyone I mentioned or referred to in this post, I wish every single one of you a fruitful, creative, prosperous New Year.

Vacancy: Girlfriend Wanted

GIRLFRIEND WANTED

 It's official, Your's Sincerely is searching. Searching for "The One". That special someone, who is supposed to make all the difference in my life, for whom I'm supposed to be willing to go to any length. Before we even begin to talk about this, I want to make one thing clear, "The One" can only be a female, either a girl, lady or woman. (I'll talk about the difference in another post, possibly tomorrow, if you wanna help me with that, feel free to drop a comment).
 I spent the first fifteen years of my life looking at only the negative parts of the female folk. That wasn't my fault, as their case was not helped by the fact that some of the worst persons I knew on a personal level were actually females, while the good ones were all kinda in a competition with me. We were constantly at each others throat.
 A couple of years ago, I made a new friend who changed my life forever. She made me see girls from a different perspective, showing me what I had been missing by not having a female friend, while teaching me a lot of things in term of relating with girls. She taught me things I'll never have known, things most guys never knew, and for the first time in my life, I actually had a non-competitive healthy relationship with a girl who wasn't in my family.
 I'll have given anything to date her, she was that much special to me, despite all the dark side there was to her which I knew of, but there is a twist to our story. She stays outside Lagos. Not just outside, but very far away. It will be plain stupidity for me to consider a distant relationship at this time of my life, not with what I know, or what I'll love to enjoy from any relationship I'm in. Dating her was automatically out of the question. But then, I'm in need of a relationship, I think I'm matured enough for one, I believe I can handle the responsibilities and privileges that come with one.
 So right now, I'm on the look out for a girlfriend, and will share with you what exactly I'm looking for in a girlfriend.
 In the Meantime, I'll continue with my quest to find "The One".

Vacancy: New Friends Wanted

Friends Wanted

 The past 15 months of my life has brought me to a couple of realization. Firstly, I don't have enough friends. Secondly, I've outgrown most of my friends. And Finally, I urgently need new friends.
 My plight is not aided by the fact that I am kinda an Introvert. There are two proverbs that keep ringing in my head each time I think about these issues. Firstly, Change is the only constant thing. Secondly, the more things change, the more they remain the same.
 I've decided to open up myself to new people, experiences, and thinking patterns. Hopefully, I'll get to make new friends who'll help me in my quest through life. Every friend I ever had played an important role in my life, so also I've decided to share the roles for which I've got "friends vacancy".
 I need a friend who is very intelligent but quiet. His role will be to challenge me educationally, bringing out the best in me, while ensuring I still take time to keep my private matters private.
 I need a friend who is a socialite. As most of you probably know now, I'm not a known figure, but I think that situation can be helped if I have a friend who is well know, maybe not a celebrity. But at least someone who knows the social circuit, and can get me into any event I want to attend. Even the ones that are supposed to be strictly by invitation.
 I also need a friend who is wealthy, or has a wealthy parent. Either way, He/She or His/Her parents should also be very liberal with their wealth, thereby helping me with some of my finances. Although I'll only need their help in setting up some business. I promise not to waste their money, and to also help them with any investment they might be interested in. (I happen to have a good knowledge in that regard.)
 I need a Socially aware friend. Some who is at the happening club every friday, and knows about all the happening places, joints and events. He should also be Trendy, and very fashion conscious. These traits will hopefully rub off on me (Positively). Then I can also be a happening guy.
 I also need a crazy friend. The type who believes everything is possible, and is always willing to tackle the seemingly impossible. Someone who is always ready to take the leap with me, face any danger, take on anyone or anything, acts first ask questions later, risk everything he's got on something his heart tells him is right although every evidence says he is wrong. Someone who is impulsive, and will go to any length with me.
 Finally, I think it's time I finally get myself that girlfriend have been telling y'all about. Maybe then I can stop checking out all of my beautiful female friends, and stop day dreaming about "One Girl".

HYFR!!! It's December.

Because He lives,

I can face tomorrow,

Because He lives,

All fears is gone,

Because I know, 

He holds my future,

My life is worth,

I live in just,

Because He lives.

 That song was stuck in my head all throughout yesterday. Maybe it's because I'm just too excited right about now. The feeling is practically indescribable. I woke up on a high (someone who does weed could never get the type of high I'm talking about.)
 As any of my frequent reader will know, I'm a real "Deeperlife Boy" and yesterday, we held a national celebration of God's faithfulness. It was all about praising God for what he did in the course of the year. Before the service, I decided to take a note of what I'm most grateful for this year. I'm going to take the liberty to share this with everyone of you.
 Firstly, I'm thankful for the gift of Life, It's by God's mercies that I'm still alive, as some of you might know, I'm not one of the most security or health conscious person. I've witnessed a couple of ugly incidents this year, and read, saw and heard of the death of others. But thankfully, I'm alive at this point. For this I'm grateful.
 Secondly, I'm thankful for My family. They are my most valued possession. My dad, mum, brothers and sisters, then I've got the world's best aunty, other aunties and uncles, and lots of other relatives. It is the moments I spend with them that I treasure the most. They educate me, entertain me, motivate me, and keep me going in the right direction. The good news I share with them has been a fuel for all my goals, and keeps me happy. I'll not trade them for any family in the world.
 Thirdly, I'm thankful for My friends, Every single one of them, both the ones I relate with everyday, and the ones I only get to talk to once a month, the ones I see everyday, and the one I've only seen once this year, and even that "special someone" I've never seen. (She is truly special to me.) Everyone of you guys are my motivation. You guys are the best in the world, and I'll always love and appreciate You.
 Then there is the GIG Family. That's everyone who has been a part of my GIG Entertainment project. You guys have shared my lowest moments with me, you've inspired me to grow to a level I only thought was possible in the world of imagination. You guys made me realize that if I can dream it, then "WE" can do it. You guys are the most talented, most passionate, most trust-worthy guys I've ever know. For that I'll be forever grateful. I know we've been through the hard times, but I know as you all do, that we are on the verge of making our first dream come true. And with God on our side, the skies will just be a starting point.
 There are still many other things I'm grateful for, from my best friend,  the one and only "Tobisco" to My Job, and everyone I work with. From Church, to My Role Models. Interestingly, I'm most grateful for all my foes, opponents, competitions, contradictors, enemies, haters, beefers, or whatever else you might want to call them. You guys have been my biggest source of challenge. If not for you guys, I'll have become complacent. So Thank You ALL.
 I'm grateful to GOD for all of You, and hope we continue with our wonderful "relationship" and hopefully, Better days will catch up with us in matter of this.
 I'll happily say compliments of the season to you all.

Word For The Day: 5-September-2012

 

Friendship often ends in Love; but Love, in Friendship - Never.
 - Charles Caleb Colton

Why I Do Not Have A Girlfriend.

Am I the guy in the middle? I Wish.

   Why don't I have a girlfriend? the question should be "why should I have a girlfriend". I've been in countless conversations with friends, especially one that I'm reuniting with after a long time. We'll ask each other of what we've been doing, how life is treating them, and how they are holding up. Inevitably, I'll ask if they are in any relationship, and the reply mostly will be a resounding yes, followed by a long story of how they meet this wonderful girl (or boy) who is everything they dreamed of, and how She (or He) is all they can think about all day. Those who are not currently in a relationship go on to tell me about this heartless girl (or boy) they dated, and how he/she messed up big time, which lead to the end of their relationship.
 After all the narration, they'll ask for my own "relationship story". and I'll tell them "I'm not in a relationship". They'll say "ok then, what about your Ex-es". I'll reply, "I've actually never been in one before". This is followed by a ridiculous look of disbelief, and most of them assume I'm lying. I then go on to explain that thanks to a number of factors, I've not been in a relationship.
 First and Foremost, thanks to my upbringing, I developed some principles by which I've actually lived my entire life. Originally, I never wanted to be in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, I just wanted to cut to the chase and get someone willing to marry, and go ahead to marry her. This was in turn aided by my "phobia" for the female folk. I use to be scared of girls, thanks to some earlier experience,as well as the fact that girls always posed as the only obstacle between me and the top position in most of my activity as a younger child, making me see them as a threat, which I must always fight.
 As I grew older, I realized I'll probably need to get closer to girls to be able to achieve somethings. I got closer to a few very intelligent girls around me, I learned a lot from them, and subconsciously, they raised my expectation from any girl I'll get to date. This actually reduced the chances of any girl I meet. Because the first time I meet any girl, I begin to measure her up with all of my female friend, not one of them, but all of them. No girl has been able to combine all the positive attributes of my female friends. (I act hope to meet a girl who will make me forget about all my standards or expectation.)
 Another issue I have to deal with is the fact that I began to have crushes on many of my female friends, (I've actually had a crush on all of my female friends at different time.) I realized that if I asked every girl I crushed on, I would end up dating too many people. The funny part was that the crush was on and off, I would get over it, and later, I would crush even heavier on them. It would also be very awkward if I have dated all of my female friends and then went on to brake up by them. Seriously, I'm better off crushing on all of my friends, than breaking up with all of them.
 Finally, there were some girls I wanted to date, and some of them were also interested in dating me, but there was just one problem, They were in a relationship at the time, and I was not willing to break up someone else relationship, just to satisfy myself. So it was an issue of availability vs moral.
 So here am I today without a girlfriend, but enjoying every moment of being single. And most importantly pleasing God. Since I do not have a girlfriend, I'm actually under less pressure to engage in acts of fornication, and I don't have to spend money on making someone else happy at my own expense.
 But seriously though, I would very much love to meet that special someone very soon. (Today is not a bad day for that to happen.) Any girl interested in being that "Special someone" should feel free to contact me, we can start from "somewhere".
 Until then I'm Single, I'm Free, and I don't have any Worries.

A Friend In Need Is A _____

Attitude makes all the Difference in Giving and Receiving

 A Friend in need can mean a lot of things to a different people. That's why we say "Different strokes for different folks." The popular saying is that "A Friend in Need is a Friend Indeed."
But time and again, I've had reason's to disagree with this. I've been shown that just as He can be a "friend indeed," a friend in need can also be "a counselor, a confidant, a threat to You, or worse of all, A Pain in the Ass."
 Back to the original saying, a friend in need can be a friend indeed diverse ways, He can be Your truest friend, standing by Your side, attending to your every need, just to ensure He gets what he needs, while at the same time, He can begin to bring up everything he ever did for you. Even the inconsequential ones. The favors you never thought in Your wildest dreams will be mentioned ever again, some even go as far as bringing back to your memory embarrassing moments you shared together.
 The most annoying friends are split into two categories, there are some who will stick to you like a tick, almost walking in your legs, willing to do anything, even when you obviously do not need their help. It's worse if you are in public, as they seem to have lost all sense of decorum, and would gladly disgrace the both of You. They'll agree to whatever You say, take decisions for you, live for you (If Possible), and make Your life a living hell.
 The second and I'll say most annoying ones are those who act as if You owe it as a duty to them to satisfy whatever need they have. They'll threaten You, coerce you, cut you off, and even blackmail you just to get what they need. Most of the time they don't deserve the favors, but they'll just choose to be a pain in the neck, giving you unpleasantly surprise visits, and would even report you to everyone you know in common, telling them of how you are being selfish, proud and arrogant.
 I had an experience with someone recently, doing him a favor, and expecting him to meet me halfway across, finish up the stuff himself, but he was adamant that I should do all the work myself and send him the completed Job. This is in spite of the fact that doing it had already cost me unnecessary expenses. He was adamant, and when I insisted He come to collect his Job and finish it off Himself, he requested that I dispose of the whole project, as he will get what He needs elsewhere. I decided this was going to be the last time I'll ever do anything for him again. And I intend to keep my word.
 Just as "A Friend in Need can be A Friend Indeed",  so also "A Friend in Need can be A Pain in the Neck". It all comes down to wisdom, maturity, experience and attitude.

Am I Addicted To Love?

That Should be Me and My Miss in the Picture.

 Suddenly, everywhere I turn, I'm confronted with something that reminds me of Love (Not sex, please, there is a difference. We'll talk on that later.)
 My old crushes are showing up everywhere I turn, Female friends I have are suddenly seeming more hotter, (or cooler, depending on which generation you belong to.) And I'm meeting new female friends who are not helping my plight at all.
 I literally use to close my eyes whenever I see a really cute couple, but in recent times, that has been impossible. As much as I'll like to put an excuse to this, there is a fact that is impossible to ignore. I am getting older, (I actually turned 20 years old this year) and so are my friends. Thanks to my more developed mental capacity, physical attribute assessment and appreciation capacity, and most importantly, but also most dangerous of all is some hormone advancement. (I don't know the name for this hormones, because I'm not much of a science guy.)
I've come to some conclusion, hoping this will help in alleviating my plight.
 Firstly, I'll probably get a very soon. But there is a big challenge here. Thanks to the many beautiful, intelligent , mature, selfless, and motherly-hearted female friends I have, who I happen to be very close to, It is almost impossible for me to find a girl who can perfectly, or preferably, finely combine most of the positive attributes of my female friends. It is going to be very difficult, if not impossible for any girl to meet this high standard of perfection, which this girls have built in my mind. But then maybe I will meet a girl, who will make me just forget about all these standards and conditions altogether.
 Secondly, I might have to stop being friends with all my female friends, Maybe this will help me ignore more of my emotional need for companionship. But this might boomerang, as it might leave a bigger vacuum, making me an emotional wreck in the process, thereby hastening me to take a wrong decision of getting a girlfriend. In which case, I might end up getting the wrong girl.
 Thirdly, I will like to get married next year. I have told this to a couple of friends, and after listening to my argument, some have bought the idea, while others have out-rightly advised me against it. Which girl in her right mind will happen to marry a 21 year old guy, (I'll be 21 years old next year), who doesn't have a fortune to his name, (But he does have big ambitions), and is not even a university graduate yet. By my estimate, I will probably have to marry someone about three to five years older than I am, As most girls my age-mate still want to live their live, have fun, and be independent. What they want in a relationship is different from what I want. But if I'm lucky, I might just find a special "someone" who wants to begin to live her life with her "Soul-mate" early enough, to have th advantage of being "Pure, Innocent, or simply all the advantages of being a couple."
 Actually, I'll prefer if I find a girl who fits my "Dream-Girl Description", I date her, and she gets along well with my friends (male and female) as well as my family. Then Next year, probably August, we get married, and "Live Happily Ever After".

I'm In A Love Triangle

I hope the three of Us don't end up Like This.

Before I begin writing this Post, I'll like to say something: I actually hope two people never get to read this piece. Firstly, My Best Friend; Secondly, My Crush, who My Best-Friend happens to be interested in. On a second thought, I also hope My Wife and maybe My Children never get to read this too. because it might cause a lot of controversies in the future, especially if I can't write special piece for my wife. And Maybe My aunty, siblings, pastor and some of my co-workers never get to read this. Else this is surely gonna change their view of me.
Back to business. Over the years, I've had interest in a couple of girls, I just wanted to be more than friends with them, but with time, most of the feelings get washed away, while some of them persist, and manage to stay subdued over time.
But then, My best-friend happens to be a "ladies favorite". He meets a girl for the first time, and she falls head over heels for him. While I'm a sharp contrast to that, I'm more likely to be disliked by a lady whose just meeting me, (actually, most of the female friends I have, I meet under circumstances where we just had to get along with one another.)
One thing I'm happy about is that My friend (Let's call him "T" for the purpose of this discussion, except you read my previous piece on Him) doesn't "Over Use" this to his advantage. He respects these girls, treats them right, and tries to be best of friends with as many of them as possible.
Just like every other guy out there, T also has feelings for a number of this girls, Two of them actually, until recently when He meet a third one, who He has been crazy about (Which is very uncharacteristic of Him.)
I'll tell you more about the other girls, and His own dilemma in dealing with them some other times, but today, I'm gonna talk about only one of them. (Let's call her "F" just for the purpose of this discussion, except if you know the three of us personally, in which case I'll most probably be in big trouble).
I'll start right from the genesis of this whole palaver (i actually didn't know palaver is a correct English word until I checked my dictionary, I thought it was pidgin).
I started senior secondary school about a month later than most of my peers, then I was posted to a wrong class for over half of the academic session. When eventually I was transferred to the right class, I noticed a couple of things about this class (I'll write about it sometimes in the future.) and It was actually impossible not to notice this young, confident and vibrant young boy. I was actually sat right behind him, and we became friends. I also noticed this girl who always had a beret on, (Which was kinda uncommon in our class back then). She was beautiful, and had this lovely smile which was infectious.
The boy was "T" while the girl was"F". Before the end of our first year of school, there were lots of hook-ups in our class, as we had begun to notice the characters of each other, and get to know each other better.
"T" and "F" were mutually attracted to one another, but didn't exactly go into an official relationship, although they were as good as being a couple. They were even closer and more cute than most known couple in the class back then. But then, instead of openly showing affection for one another, they'll engage in public argument, and consistently take opposing sides on almost every discussion, but the chemistry between them was very visible to everyone.
After we finished secondary school, I, "T" and "F" got closer than before, and they still didn't have any official relationship, although they both admitted to having feelings for one another.
As I and "F" got closer, I began to have feelings for her, as I began noticing more positive sides of her, and I'll admit, she got even more beautiful (I don't know how that's even possible, because she was already too beautiful before.)
I believed if I leave this feeling unattended to, it will die a natural death, but each time we talked, chat, or I saw her pictures, I loved her even more. If she was somebody else, I will probably have told her about my feelings for her, but she is suppose to be in a relationship with my Best friend "T".
 I believe asking her out will amount to betraying the confidence and trust of My Best-Friend, although they never dated, and I don't see that happening soon, but then even if I date get to date her, I have this premonition, that she'll always compare me to "T" which might prove disastrous for our relationship, and cause constant conflict between "T" and I, which is something I'll rather avoid.
If I was to advice someone else who was in this same predicament, it may be easy doing that, but right now, I've decided to keep shunning my feelings, and remain best of friends with both "T" and "F". And this has also made me have a change of heart in the way I give people relationship advice.

Good News in Bad Times

Thanks to Good News, I can Laugh at My Troubles

 There are somethings in nature that just cannot be explained. But in the midst of all the unexplainable contrast we see in Nature, I've come to make a wonderful discovery.
 When I make a decision to sacrifice something in the present, to take care of the future, it sometimes seems risky, foolish, and overtly dangerous. Last year October, I and a couple of friends decided to go into a joint venture, we were to pool together our resources to cover the expense of this little business. This is despite the fact that none of us had any experience setting up or running a business, but we all shared the passion.
 Between October 2011 and today, we've raised and spent more than we thought any of us could possibly imagine. Due to some unforeseen circumstances, we have still not completed the setting up of this business, and this has put a big financial burden on Me, as I happen to be at the center of this activity.
 Thanks to this set back, the last three months for me has been a big nightmare, as I'm faced with uncertainties everyday, as well as frustration, anger, disappointment and despair. But I never regret any action I take, so I just wake up everyday put down the cares of the previous day, and continue with my daily life.
 But the month of April was filled with pleasant surprises for me, as I was privileged to have more reasons to smile, On the first day of the month, A very close friend of mine, (more like my sister than a friend) had a beautiful baby girl. This filled me with Joy and Gladness, as this proved to be a very good tiding, in the midst of a trying time. Then in the middle of the month, another friend of mine had a wonderful baby boy, making me happier, and giving me more reason to continue with my struggle, and making me more of a happy man.
 Every morning, I wake up to this gloomy world, and remember this beautiful children, and my face is lit with a great smile, as I realize that there is a silver lining at the end of every cloudy sky.
 To everyone out there who is going through difficult times,  just take a few minutes to look around you, and I'm sure you'll find a reason to smile, it might seem like a very little or silly reason, but just enjoy that moment and smile, because "Tough times don't last, but Tough people do".
 God bless and strengthen You.

Song Of The Day: Demi Lovato and Jonas Brothers- This is Me

This song is all about Love, Self Discovery, Personality, Self Confidence, Belief, and more of Love.
If You watch the movie "Camp Rock" then You're sure to fall in love with this song. I'll always love this song, as well as the chemistry between Demi Lovato and the Jonas Brothers. I hope to see more of them, preferably in a live concert.
(I also love the pretty face of Demi Lovato, She's just too pretty.)

Demi Lovato and Jonas Brothers- This is Me (Video, Movie Version)

Demi Lovato and Jonas Brothers- This is Me (Video, Live Performance)

Demi Lovato and Jonas Brothers- This is Me (Acoustic Version)

Demi Lovato and Jonas Brothers- This is Me (Live, World Tour)

Demi Lovato and Jonas Brothers- This is Me (Lyrics)

My Birthday Speech.

Joshua "Joswil" Wilson

On a Monday, the 30th day of March, 1992, A phenomenal event took place, in a small town in Lagos state, Agege to be precise, a young boy was born. There was laughter, Joy, and Happiness. Seven days later, Family members, Friends and Other well wishers gathered for His christening. His father named Him Joshua, and his Journey through Life begun.
 Thirteen years later, this young boy finished his Junior Secondary School, and had to make His first Big decision. He was to decide either to become a Science, Commercial or Art student in his Senior Secondary School. People already expected him to become the next big engineer out of the country, or probably a doctor, or maybe something big in the field of  Science and Technology. But contrary to popular opinion and expectations, He decided to take the less traveled road. He was going to be an Art student. A lot of people advised him against it, but he was insistent, claiming this was the field he had the least knowledge, but more interest.
 Thus began the sojourn of Joshua "Joswil" Wilson into the world of Arts and Entertainment. Three years down the line, August 2008 precisely, He finished Secondary School, and decided that before going off into the University, He was going to try his hand at Multimedia production.
 Long story short, Three years later, Joshua is a Video editor, Creative Writer, and M.D/C.E.O of GIG Entertainment, the company of His dream, which he co-founded with a couple of like minded friends.
 He is not currently a big player in the entertainment industry, but in the next couple of years, He and His friends are surely going to be taking over the Nigerian as well as African Entertainment Industry.
 I am Joshua Wilson,
 I say there's no stopping me as long as I've got God on my side.
 And if You know You are not in My life to Help, then You had better get out of My life at the next opportunity You get.
 So Ladies and Gentle Man, I say a let's make a Toast to Greatness,
 See You at the Top.

The Love(S) Of My Life

 I've never been one for keeping much friends, and interestingly, until I finished secondary school, I hardly kept a friend for period of five years, circumstantial incidence made it impossible to remain friends with the same person for such a period of time.

 But in the midst of it all, I've always had some special persons, with whom I've been a lot closer to, this people were more than friends to me, they were more than siblings, they were more like a part of me. This people defined my life and made me what I am today, I owe them a lot of appreciation (and maybe some blames). Among these people, I'm proud to say I've met some beautiful, Intelligent, Interesting and simply wonderful girls. 

 Due to my unusual close relationship with these lovely girls (and ladies) over the years, a lot of people believed I must have dated a number of them (I Wish I Did), but our relationship was mostly platonic, innocent, care-free, and fun.

 I've decided to write about them for posterity sake, so everyone who reads this will know them, (hopefully one or all of them also get to read this). And for anyone who recognizes any of these girls, "Congrats". While for every other reader, I'll use their initials instead of their names.

M: M was the very first girl I'll say I had a special something for, We met in the primary school, probably before we turned seven years old, we were part of a three man gang, with the third person being my best friend at that time, a boy who goes by the name of J. 

M was special to me, as she was easily the most beautiful and most intelligent girl I knew back then, All the good memories I have of that school has M in them, after I left the school, I didn't see her for over ten years, but recently, I met a mutual friend who has her contact details, I intend to renew contact with her in the next couple of weeks. Maybe this time, I'll take my chances and ask to take our "Friendship" beyond "Friendship".

(The most intriguing aspect of M and I is that we were a part of each other's childhood, were best of friends, and our innocence in the midst of such a wonderful relationship is what I love the most about our friendship)

E.E: E was this my class mate at the second primary school I attended, she was the quiet type, not very confident, but what she lacked in confidence, she made up for with intelligence. We were very close until we finished primary school, people even made jokes of her being my wife.

We parted ways after our primary school days, I saw her a couple of times after that, but didn't talk much, but I'll admit, she looked better each time I saw her (I don't know how that's possible).

I hope to meet her one day, even if we'll be nothing more than friends, I think it'll be worth the time and effort.

JC.O: After I spent the whole of my years in Junior Secondary School avoiding girls like a plague, I got to Senior Secondary School, and there I met the most perfect combination of beauty and brain I had ever seen in my life (at that time), She was one of the most popular girls in our class/session, she was not only beautiful and brilliant, but she was also friendly and open minded, she listened to everyone's opinion around her, was a natural leader, and very humble.

This attracted me to her, and although we did not talk much in our school days, after finishing secondary school, we got to know each other better, and became better friends. I learnt a lot from her (I still do). Happily enough, we are still friends (although I'll love it if we'll be more than that) and I hope we remain best of friends for ever.

She changed and upgraded my standard for measuring girls, raising my expectations, and helping me to relate better with girls.

D: Soon after I got into Senior Secondary School, I meet a girl online, she stays outside of Lagos state, but I still wanted to be friends, so we kept in contact. Over the years, we got to know each other better, shared a lot of memories as well as secrets. I learnt a lot of things from her, as she opened up herself to me, making me do the same. She taught me a new type of trust, making me trust in a way I had never done before.

She changed my perception of things, teaching me to see things from the female point of view, helping me understand the female-folk better, making me a better man in the process. We were actually closer than most couples I knew around. From what I understood from her and other couples, I think there's a probability we might have been closer, or shared more than she did with her boyfriend.

I always wonder, if she was staying in Lagos, or someplace closer, and not half way across the country, Maybe, just maybe we will have dated.

I'll always be grateful to her for curing a better percentage of my naivety, making me more trusting, more knowledgeable, more experienced, and a better man.

I Love her very much, and we'll always be best of friends (I hope my wife agrees) .

B: When I got to Senior Secondary School, We also moved to a new house, I had a neighbor who lived just a couple of houses away, someone I'll normally never talk to, but we had something in common, our love for books. I grew up reading everything that I came across, from novels to textbooks, to newspapers, to magazines, just anything written or printed. I was not selective (except it had to do with figures, basically I was kinda allergic to mathematics).

And here I was in a new location, with basically no social skills, and I saw this girl who I never saw without a novel. We hit it up from there, became best of friends (Which I still don't understand how, cause we're very different). 

She was my new source of novels and textbooks cause we were in the same class (but different schools). We had a lot of memorable and intelligent conversations. And she made me see another view of the female folk. She helped me develop my social skills, making me more receptive of people, and brought out more of the interactive person in me.

We'll remain best of friends for a long time (maybe forever, or until I get a wife) as she's proven herself to be very knowledgeably, as well as being resourceful.

C: This is most unexpected inclusion on this list, I knew her all through my Secondary School days, She was always in the next class to mine, we saw each other basically everyday, but hardly ever spoke with each other, but there are some facts I'll admit to, Firstly, she's very beautiful, also, she's very intelligent, finally, she's a friendly person, but we were never friends.

Until recently, (Over two years after secondary school) I was repeatedly visiting my best friend, and her house was just a few streets away. I saw her almost every time I went to visit him, as she was friends with his elder sister.

We began to speak with each other, and became kinda friendly, now I know her a little better, and I can actually say she might be "The One".

All this people are part of my history, they are a part of me, and have contributed immensely in making me what I am today. 

To everyone of you I want to say a big "THANK YOU", God bless you all, an "I Love You All".

Word For The Day: 28-March-2012

Every Saint has a past,
And Every Sinner has a Future.
-Unknown Writer

I Think I'm Love Sick.

 The last couple of weeks has been the best and worst weeks of my life, but beneath it all, I have suddenly been having the most unusual feeling in my heart.
 It's something I've never felt before, It's so intense I find it impossible to ignore the feeling. I actually spent all my life ignoring and denying any feeling that might feel like love. I practically kill the feeling before it even buds.
 But in the last couple of weeks, I've been consistently been faced with this feeling again and again. But the only problem is I'm having the feeling for more than one person, it seems everyone I ever had special feelings for are suddenly showing up in my life, looking even more beautiful than they looked years ago, they sounded a lot more intelligent than they use too, and worse of it is they are not avoiding me, they all remain receptive and friendly towards me, and I'm continually feeling blessed to have them in my life.
 Only problem is out of about seven to ten people I'm having feelings for, I can only date one of them, as I have no intention of double dating or cheating on anyone, and I also want to have the right person as my date, as I don't want my present decision to have negative impact on me or anyone i the future.
 So I've decided to leave all of them and see which of them would get into a relationship with someone else, thereby reducing my options. But I have my fears.
 What if the person left actually has no interest in me? What if they all get into relationships before I can get back to them? What if I keep meeting more people like them, and I'm constantly having multiple options?
 I'll tell you all about each of these girls at a later time, but until then, I'll leave everything in God's hands.

Photo Of The Day: 27-MARCH-2012

I LOVE YOU

Today's Photo is all about LOVE, it is simply another creative way to say I LOVE YOU.

Song Of The Day: Whitney Houston - Your Love Is My Love

 This song is a beautiful description of a never ending, never dying, endless love.
 I don't want to waste time describing it unnecessarily, The song is best experienced, and not explained.
So just follow one of the links below, check out the song, You'll be glad you did.

Whitney Houston - Your Love Is My Love(Video)

Whitney Houston - Your Love Is My Love (Live Performance)

Whitney Houston - Your Love Is My Love (Lyrics)

Pre-Exam Prayers

 Tomorrow Morning, over a million people around and even outside Nigeria will be writing the entrance exam into Tertiary Institution.
 This is one of the most dreaded exams in the academical calender here in Nigeria, students spend over all of the three years of senior secondary school, and sometimes even more to prepare for it, This exam raises the confidence of people, makes their future and takes them from being boys to being men, at the same time, it has reduced "Big Boys" to "Little Babies". It even drives some people to the point of suicidal tendencies.
 Some people write this exam only once and get the desired results, while others have a couple of tries at it before getting their desired results, while some have written it over five, if not ten times, and are yet to gain the much sought after admission into Higher Institution of Learning.
 I happen to have a couple of friends (Over Five of them, including my best-friend as well as my younger sister who are writing this crucial exam tomorrow, some of them are confident, while others are scarred,  some of them are optimist, while others are pessimistic and skeptical. I do have a word for everyone of you, "Fear Not, God is with You".
 I pray you find favor tomorrow, find the exam easier, and meet questions from areas you have read.
 May God's Presence and Favor be with You, Go in Peace, The Lord is Your Strength.
 To All JAMB/UTME candidates, this is to wish you the very best, God bless you.

Song Of The Day: D.J Khaled & Others - All I Do Is Win

 Tonight's song is dedicated to all the candidates of Tomorrows JAMB/UTME exam in Nigeria. I want you all to be in a positive mood, and enjoy the Night before your exam.
 Use tonight's song to take away the pressure of your preparations for the exam and confess something positive into your life.
 Remember, "All We'll Do Is Win, No Matter What!!!"

D.J Khaled & Others - All I Do Is Win (Video)

D.J Khaled & Others - All I Do Is Win (Remix Video)

D.J Khaled & Others - All I Do Is Win (Audio)

D.J Khaled & Others - All I Do Is Win (Lyrics)

The Innocent Loving Heart Of A Child.

 The child is easily God's most beautiful creation, (Other than Heaven) a child is an epitome of perfection, he is an imagery of innocence, and a pictorial representation of Humanity at it's best.
 Children have a heart filled with love, care, tenderness, innocence, humility, confidence, and every positive attribute that could ever be present in any man.
 No matter the level of  offense you might commit towards a child, the child might leave you alone in anger, hurt and distraught, but in a matter of hours, if not minutes, the child is sure to comeback to you, forgetting about the past, and acting as if everything you did never happened.
 No matter what you own or do not own, if you give a child the opportunity, he is sure to love you selflessly, without fear, and with all purity of heart.
Children do not care about your past, they have a bright and beautiful picture about the future, they believe irrespective of the past, they can be whatever they want to in the future, they are willing to share what they have selflessly, and will do whatever it takes to pro protect a friend.
 Children will love with all sincerity, and there love is not blinded by lust, selfishness, negativity, race, religion, political affiliation, ethnicity, or any other prejudice.
 To a child, things only fall into two categories, good or bad. There is nothing like "complicated" in their dictionary, if it is not good, then it is bad, and vice versa.
 It is simply impossible not to fall in love with a child, and if at any point you fall you are losing touch with your humane side, just take time out to look at the children around you, spend time in their midst, trust me it's gonna be a life changing experience.
 Here's what the bible has to say about children:
Matthew 18 : 3 - 5 And said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven. Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven.  And whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receiveth me."
Matthew 19:14 But Jesus said, Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.

 From this verses, I learned a very important lesson, "Children are God's way of teaching adults the most important lessons."