When is it Right to be Selfish?

Who Said That?

 This is a question which most people will easily answer with a big Never. but time and time again, I have been in a position where the appropriate thing to do would be to be selfish. Simple.
 Some people who know me when I was younger will tell you that I was actually a selfish little boy, and I'll testify to that. I actually was very much selfish, and I knew it. But at one point, I decided to be more liberal and selfless. Since then (By God's grace) I've actually been more of a giver than I use to be.
But the only time when I will ever be selfish again is if the recipient of my selfishness is proving to be foolish, careless, and unnecessarily selfish. Some people take your liberal attitude as foolishness, weakness, and a sign of Immaturity. They'll keep everything they have away from you, while expecting you to hand everything you own over to them, even when they don't deserve to have it. And whenever you ask for their contribution to a joint venture, they'll make an excuse, and give you a justification for their selfishness. Under such circumstances, I'll advise you be selfish to such selfishness.
 Another instance where I'll recommend selfishness is when someone uses your generosity as a front for laziness. Because of your hard-working nature, your sense of dutifulness, and your willingness to share, some people will chose not to work and practically live off your labor. They'll sit around all day, expecting you to bring in all you have, while they sit on their ass and wholeheartedly help you to feed off your labor. In such instances, I recommend you go into full selfishness mode.
 Finally, and most people will call me a selfish guy for this. when everybody is being graciously generous over a trivial issue, Then I recommend you can get a little bit selfish. I'm talking about those awkward moments when there is only a little amount of groundnut, or other food item left in the plate, and everyone is like "You take it, I'm filled." and then everyone is politely, charismatically, courteously leave the last piece of food item in the plate. I'll gladly pick it up and eat it. Let's forget about "big boyism" or ego, or "whatever". Let's eat and get our belly filled. Pick the last stuff left, satisfy yourself, forget about what others will think or say. And leave there.
 In summary, it is sometimes necessary to be selfish, and I'll advice you listen to all sides of a story before passing your judgement.

An Empty Head, And An Empty Mind.

Blank Mind

 Over the last couple of weeks, I've been feeling awkwardly lazy. My normal Self (or as I hope I am) is a hard working, creative minded person. But recently, the creative aspect has been functioning, but my body as been reluctant to complete the creative process.
 For over Five years now, I've always had about 20 to 50 different ideas at different stages on my mind. From conceptual, to processing, to outputting (writing, or recording). It has always been difficult for me to lay down whatever is on my mind, as ideas were just boundless, ever-developing, and getting better everyday.
 I had always managed to discipline myself to bring out whatever I might be working on, because if I didn't bring out what I was working on mentally, I would find it difficult to work on other stuffs.
 But recently, things have just been crazy, I still conceptualize and nurture stuffs in my mind, but outputting these stuffs have virtually been impossible. And this is a very big problem for me, as my mind is constantly in a state of disorganization. If my mind was actually visible, it will look like a work-table where everything is messed up, and nothing is sort out. Or a one of those highly networked fiber-optic layer of multi-crossed cables, which are just spun into one another, and cannot be separated from each other.
 Simply put my mind is a mess, because my body is lazy. or should I say "The spirit is Willing, but the body is weak". I actually wish there was a technology that I could just hook myself to, and it would just bring up everything in my mind, in a orderly manner that will be easily understandable.
 I hope I'll get some of this stuff sorted out, discipline myself to work harder, and free up my mind, else my life could get real worse. (It actually affects my mood).
Or maybe if I get a

Song Of The Day: Whitney Houston - Your Love Is My Love

 This song is a beautiful description of a never ending, never dying, endless love.
 I don't want to waste time describing it unnecessarily, The song is best experienced, and not explained.
So just follow one of the links below, check out the song, You'll be glad you did.

Whitney Houston - Your Love Is My Love(Video)

Whitney Houston - Your Love Is My Love (Live Performance)

Whitney Houston - Your Love Is My Love (Lyrics)

Pre-Exam Prayers

 Tomorrow Morning, over a million people around and even outside Nigeria will be writing the entrance exam into Tertiary Institution.
 This is one of the most dreaded exams in the academical calender here in Nigeria, students spend over all of the three years of senior secondary school, and sometimes even more to prepare for it, This exam raises the confidence of people, makes their future and takes them from being boys to being men, at the same time, it has reduced "Big Boys" to "Little Babies". It even drives some people to the point of suicidal tendencies.
 Some people write this exam only once and get the desired results, while others have a couple of tries at it before getting their desired results, while some have written it over five, if not ten times, and are yet to gain the much sought after admission into Higher Institution of Learning.
 I happen to have a couple of friends (Over Five of them, including my best-friend as well as my younger sister who are writing this crucial exam tomorrow, some of them are confident, while others are scarred,  some of them are optimist, while others are pessimistic and skeptical. I do have a word for everyone of you, "Fear Not, God is with You".
 I pray you find favor tomorrow, find the exam easier, and meet questions from areas you have read.
 May God's Presence and Favor be with You, Go in Peace, The Lord is Your Strength.
 To All JAMB/UTME candidates, this is to wish you the very best, God bless you.

Song Of The Day: 2Face- Only Me

This song became a second National anthem in Nigeria, and it had ripple effect across Africa. When this song was released by 2Face Idibia, the whole of Africa stood up to acknowledge a true son of the soil.
The song went on to win multiple awards in Nigeria and across Africa, making it one of his all time fans favorite (Maybe second only to his earlier release, "African Queen").
If I was asked to rank 2Faces song, I'll rank Appreciate it as Number 1, Only Me as Number 2, and one other one as number 3, but most ladies in Africa would always rank African Queen as his all time best song, (But I have a problem with that, well, I'm not a girl).
But Only Me is like a song of consolation to those still at the bottom of the socio-economic ladder, letting them realize that they could still make it, and telling those who were already successful to treat others with respect as as the guys at the bottom might be at the top in the future.
The song as a comical feel to it, as it's tells of the boredom that will be apparent in the life of a millionaire, if he has no one to spend the money with. But it's a true fact, wealth is best enjoyed if it is being shared with friends and people we care about.
Ladies and Gentlemen I present to You, from one of Africa's finest, From the best selling album, Unstoppable (International Version).
Join me and enjoy the song for today, "ONLY ME".

Song Of The Day: 2Face- Only Me(Video)

Song Of The Day: 2Face- Only Me(Audio)

Song Of The Day: 2Face- Only Me(Lyrics)

Song Of The Day: Nneka - My Home

From her recent Album, "Soul is Heavy" we'll be listening tonight to Nneka's "My Home"
.This is a song that talks about returning to the roots.
In life, we sometimes leave our "Home" or "place of comfort" in search of adventure, love, experience, money, fame, and other things. In the process of doing this, we sometimes sacrifice the relationships we have built over the years and make new ones.
Sometimes, this new relationship proves to be profitable,  and even better than the previous ones while at other times, it proves dastardly, disastrous, and ends up as a costly mistake.
At such time, we go back to our "First love" to find comfort and refuge. Our earlier friends and companions do not reject us, they welcome us with open hands and hearts, they help us through our grieving and healing process, make us better than we were, and make us emerge from each experience as a stronger person.
Whatever you do, always remember, "make new friends, but keep the old ones".

Nneka - My Home (Video)

Nneka - My Home (Lyrics)

Song Of The Day: Asa- Preacher Man

This is a song describing how a lady who used to be a saint, becomes a sinner, and wants to come back to become a saint.
This songs fully tells the story of Asa'a album, "Beautiful Imperfection"
It tells how one might fall from grace, but he'll still have the choice of rising back up, or remaining at the bottom.

Asa- Preacher Man (Live Performance)

Asa- Preacher Man (Lyrics)

Dreams Come True

That catch phrase describes exactly how I feel. "DREAMS COME TRUE" and That's actually true.
For the past 10 years, I've dreamed of becoming a major player in the entertainment industry, I've made a lot of moves to come in, I went for a couple of training as well as seminars, workshops and conferences.
Then about 6 months ago, a close friend of mine opened my eyes to the prospects of starting out small, he advised me to start from where I was. At that time, I didn't even have half of the money needed to begin the planing process with, but I had faith that once I started the journey, My God will see me through.
Between September 2011 and March 2012, I've spent the type of money I never dreamed I could raise, I asked for favors no one in their sane mind will normally give to me, I did things I never dreamed were possible, now, I'm actually feeling on top of the world, Telling anyone who cares to hear that dreams do come true, and convincing people that miracles still happen.
If you are looking up to God for anything, my prayer for you is that this week, Your prayers will be answered, and you'll sing and dance for Joy.
Meanwhile, I'll continue to update you all.
God bless you.