Special Announcement

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  Wow! It's been over a month since I've made any post on either of my Blogs. (For those of you that don't know, I do own a second blog. TipsyJoswil.Blogspot.com, There I put up wonderful stats, tips, as well as information I find important.)
 I can't exactly explain why I had to take the break, but I think I was getting too lazy to type, although I had a lot to write about. So instead, I just kept my thoughts to myself. But after a couple of weeks, I decided to take more time and think things through, before deciding on what exactly I want to do next. In this short period of time, I've done a lot of soul-searching, as well as self-rediscovery. I've also taken a lot of decisions on my next line of action, both professionally, personally, relationship-wise, and concerning this blog. I'm gonna share this decisions with you guys as I deem the time mature enough.
 The first decision is about my blogs. I've decided to start blogging daily without missing any day (God helping me). My post is also restructured, With a daily dose of Bible Verse, Quote, Picture, and finally, a personal entry for the day. Although I'll be retiring the "Song For The Day posts," But every Friday, there is gonna be a "Song for the week".
 A special warning to everyone though, My personal posts are going to get "Very Personal" and also "Explicit". I started blogging to vent out what I had on my mind, but due to my need to keep things good looking because of "Some People" I didn't want to find out "Somethings", I never wrote about "Somethings". But from here on, things are going to get "Personal", and if you don't like what you see, leave the page. But if you do have any questions, leave it as a comment, cos I tired of answering questions concerning what I put up on my blog with my mouth. I wouldn't even discuss it with anyone, but if you ask your questions here, or leave a comment, I'll take out time to reply you appropriately here.
 (Some of you might already be getting tired of this "boring, long" post, don't worry, I'm almost through).
 Another decision I took is that next year, I'll be starting my university programs. A lot of people have been questioning me, wanting to know when I'll "go off to school" and why I ain't in school yet. The answer is simple: I'm not in school because I'm yet to decide on what to study in school, secondly I've been trying to fix some personal stuffs, and thirdly I want to be a "Millionaire" before going off to the university. (Hopefully, I will be one before this time next year. I'm actually working towards it, and for once my visions are coming true right before my eyes.) I'll continue to update you guys on my walk to the millions, as well as my journey to getting into school.
 The third decision will interest my readers who know me on a personal level, although I'll repeat, If you ask me about what I write here whenever we meet, "I WILL GIVE YOU NO REPLY."
 "Next Year I will love to Marry, But Before then I Want to Thoroughly Party"
 As most of my personal friends know, I'm more of an introvert, and never go to parties, hardly going for events. but from here on, I intend to start going for events, outings, and parties. although I'll prefer Intellectual/Art related events. So feel free to extend invitations to me. But here's a note of warning, I'm not going clubbing. Unless the event is taking place in a club, but for me to leave my home, with the intention of going off to a club and dancing, or hooking up with people, "That ain't happening".
I'll be telling you of where I'll be visiting, as well as telling you of my outings and posting pictures from such events. Do feel free to extend your invitations to me, and I'll surely be there.
 For those of you who already know, or are wanting to confirm if this is true, or hearing about this for the first time, here it is. "I Intend to Get Marry Next Year" preferably in the month of August.
As my avid readers already know, I do have a lot of "Female friends" as well as "Crushes", but I've never had a "Girlfriend". 
Although I have no Idea who the "Lucky Lady" is going to be, or how it is gonna happen, I'm actually looking forward to this.
I intend to make this happen by "God's Grace" and I've been "praying" and "working" towards it.
I know this is gonna be a very exciting and adventurous journey, and that the next twelve months of my life is going to be very interesting. But I can assure you of one thing, you guys are gonna be my companions on this journey, as I'll confide in you on what happens, and also seek your advice whenever I need it.
 There are still a number of announcements I have to make, but I'll only tell you when I think the time is appropriate.
 On a final note, everyone that read this and know me on a personal level, I repeat "I'm not gonna be facing any questioning, and will only answer your questions if you drop them on this blog."
Thank you for taking time to read this, God bless you all, I love you all, and welcome to my crazy world.
See y'all tomorrow.

Why I Do Not Have A Girlfriend.

Am I the guy in the middle? I Wish.

   Why don't I have a girlfriend? the question should be "why should I have a girlfriend". I've been in countless conversations with friends, especially one that I'm reuniting with after a long time. We'll ask each other of what we've been doing, how life is treating them, and how they are holding up. Inevitably, I'll ask if they are in any relationship, and the reply mostly will be a resounding yes, followed by a long story of how they meet this wonderful girl (or boy) who is everything they dreamed of, and how She (or He) is all they can think about all day. Those who are not currently in a relationship go on to tell me about this heartless girl (or boy) they dated, and how he/she messed up big time, which lead to the end of their relationship.
 After all the narration, they'll ask for my own "relationship story". and I'll tell them "I'm not in a relationship". They'll say "ok then, what about your Ex-es". I'll reply, "I've actually never been in one before". This is followed by a ridiculous look of disbelief, and most of them assume I'm lying. I then go on to explain that thanks to a number of factors, I've not been in a relationship.
 First and Foremost, thanks to my upbringing, I developed some principles by which I've actually lived my entire life. Originally, I never wanted to be in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, I just wanted to cut to the chase and get someone willing to marry, and go ahead to marry her. This was in turn aided by my "phobia" for the female folk. I use to be scared of girls, thanks to some earlier experience,as well as the fact that girls always posed as the only obstacle between me and the top position in most of my activity as a younger child, making me see them as a threat, which I must always fight.
 As I grew older, I realized I'll probably need to get closer to girls to be able to achieve somethings. I got closer to a few very intelligent girls around me, I learned a lot from them, and subconsciously, they raised my expectation from any girl I'll get to date. This actually reduced the chances of any girl I meet. Because the first time I meet any girl, I begin to measure her up with all of my female friend, not one of them, but all of them. No girl has been able to combine all the positive attributes of my female friends. (I act hope to meet a girl who will make me forget about all my standards or expectation.)
 Another issue I have to deal with is the fact that I began to have crushes on many of my female friends, (I've actually had a crush on all of my female friends at different time.) I realized that if I asked every girl I crushed on, I would end up dating too many people. The funny part was that the crush was on and off, I would get over it, and later, I would crush even heavier on them. It would also be very awkward if I have dated all of my female friends and then went on to brake up by them. Seriously, I'm better off crushing on all of my friends, than breaking up with all of them.
 Finally, there were some girls I wanted to date, and some of them were also interested in dating me, but there was just one problem, They were in a relationship at the time, and I was not willing to break up someone else relationship, just to satisfy myself. So it was an issue of availability vs moral.
 So here am I today without a girlfriend, but enjoying every moment of being single. And most importantly pleasing God. Since I do not have a girlfriend, I'm actually under less pressure to engage in acts of fornication, and I don't have to spend money on making someone else happy at my own expense.
 But seriously though, I would very much love to meet that special someone very soon. (Today is not a bad day for that to happen.) Any girl interested in being that "Special someone" should feel free to contact me, we can start from "somewhere".
 Until then I'm Single, I'm Free, and I don't have any Worries.

Good News in Bad Times

Thanks to Good News, I can Laugh at My Troubles

 There are somethings in nature that just cannot be explained. But in the midst of all the unexplainable contrast we see in Nature, I've come to make a wonderful discovery.
 When I make a decision to sacrifice something in the present, to take care of the future, it sometimes seems risky, foolish, and overtly dangerous. Last year October, I and a couple of friends decided to go into a joint venture, we were to pool together our resources to cover the expense of this little business. This is despite the fact that none of us had any experience setting up or running a business, but we all shared the passion.
 Between October 2011 and today, we've raised and spent more than we thought any of us could possibly imagine. Due to some unforeseen circumstances, we have still not completed the setting up of this business, and this has put a big financial burden on Me, as I happen to be at the center of this activity.
 Thanks to this set back, the last three months for me has been a big nightmare, as I'm faced with uncertainties everyday, as well as frustration, anger, disappointment and despair. But I never regret any action I take, so I just wake up everyday put down the cares of the previous day, and continue with my daily life.
 But the month of April was filled with pleasant surprises for me, as I was privileged to have more reasons to smile, On the first day of the month, A very close friend of mine, (more like my sister than a friend) had a beautiful baby girl. This filled me with Joy and Gladness, as this proved to be a very good tiding, in the midst of a trying time. Then in the middle of the month, another friend of mine had a wonderful baby boy, making me happier, and giving me more reason to continue with my struggle, and making me more of a happy man.
 Every morning, I wake up to this gloomy world, and remember this beautiful children, and my face is lit with a great smile, as I realize that there is a silver lining at the end of every cloudy sky.
 To everyone out there who is going through difficult times,  just take a few minutes to look around you, and I'm sure you'll find a reason to smile, it might seem like a very little or silly reason, but just enjoy that moment and smile, because "Tough times don't last, but Tough people do".
 God bless and strengthen You.

One Thing I Wish I Can Change

 I never look back at whatever I have done with regrets or wishing I could go back to change things. I simply take an action, if it turns out right, I enjoy it, if it doesn't, I'll still go with the flow. But there is one exception to this.
 Right now, One thing I wish I had taken more seriously, The only thing I reminisce upon and wish I had done right, That one thing which if I had the chance, I'll do differently, is simply, "My dental hygiene."
 When I was younger, I refused all of my parents advice to take good care of my teeth. Whenever it was holiday period, or weekends, I simply forgot about brushing my teeth, and will only brush it whenever they insisted I will not eat, except I brush.
 I felt like it was an unnecessary punishment, and right now, I'm paying the price for that. For the last couple of years, I've been having serious tooth pain (Thank God it is not Mouth Odor, that will simply have made me feel a lot worse.) but nevertheless, it still hurts. Last week Thursday, I couldn't sleep from all the pain it was causing me, this made me have a bad day in the morning.
 So now, I'm saving up some money to visit the dentist, and see what he (Hopefully not a she) can do about it. I've also resolved that when I do have children, they are going to take their dental hygiene serious, whether they like it or not.
 Seeing people with glistening white teeth smile just makes me happy (I'm kinda self conscious when I smile or laugh) and I'll want my children to be able to smile proudly (on my behalf.)
 So parents out there, please, teach your children the importance of dental hygiene, make them realize that it is for their own good.

Only Me???

I've never been one for having much friends, despite the fact I've always had a lot of people around me. I'm even surprised when I show up at a place and people greet me and I'm like, "sorry, have we meet before". some people think I'm being proud or do not want to acknowledge them, they don't know I actually find it difficult to remember faces.
In spite of this fact, I actually rely heavily on my friends, and trust them with all of my secrets. I'll never do something without seeking the opinion of at least two friends, and thankfully, their opinions a=have proved really valuable to me.
But then, I sometimes try to imagine if I'd never meet one of my friends, each time I do this, the picture always look incomplete, even the most distant of my friends and the long lost ones, their opinion have proved priceless at different times in my lives, and I'll remain forever grateful to every one of them.
I wouldn't be who I am without the contribution of each of you, I sometime look at my life as a collection of bits and piece of different people, and I can actually point at these people and say I am proud of them.
So, to all my inestimable friend, friends of endless and priceless virtues, I want to say a BIG "THANK YOU" to everyone of you.
Thank you for making me the person I am to you, I constantly pray for your well being everyday, and pray God grant everyone of you your heart desires.
God bless you all. (Amen).

Reminiscing (Nursery and Primary School)

Today, I spent time reminiscing over my bitter-sweet memories of the first formal school I attended. (I think it's the second or third, but I'm not sure). I remember being inquisitive, and wanting to know "the story behind the story".
I always wanted to know why black is black, and white is white. In the process of doing this, I meet some of the greatest individuals ever (in my innocent mind). I'll spend the next couple of paragraphs talking about my childhood friends.
I remember as a kid, I had two close friends, and we were more or less triplets, at school, you can hardly find one of us without the other two, there was Junior, Mubo (or Sumbo, I'm not exactly sure of the name anymore), and there was me. Junior was one of the most intelligent boys in my class, while Mubo was, and still remains one of the most beautiful, and most intellient girls I've ever meet.
At this point in my life, we were less than seven years old, and every one of us acted with the innocence of our childhood knowledge, and our minds were unpolluted with the serious stuffs of life.
Mubo lived next to the school, while Junior's house was just a stone throw from school, but my house was kinda far from school, but I can remember spending a reasonable amount of time at the house of the both of them, and I can remember going to Junior's house with Mubo before school resumed in the morning, and sharing in a plate of rice, stew and fried plantain. (in my innocent mind, it still remain one of the sweetest plate of food I ever eat outside of home). And there were still loads of other fun things we did together.
After leaving the school in primary two or three, They were what I missed the most at my new school, and I still miss them much till now. i sometimes wonder what my life will turn out like if I had remained at the same school with them, maybe I and Junior will remain best of friends, and maybe, just maybe, I might be dating Mubo now,  that's if Junior isn't dating her already (Since I've come of age, I always fancied my chances with her, and what we'll look like as a couple). I know they would have influenced my choices of other friends, education, relationships and career. One thing for sure, with them remaining in my life, my life would surely be different, (hopefully positively) but still, I'll give anything to go back in time and go through my teenage years with them.
They remain an essential part of the story of my life, and I'm actually making moves to reconnect with them once again, (thanks to a mutual friend) and I hope they have also made remarkable progress inlife.
Mubo and Junior, I've always prayed for you, and will continue praying for you.
I pray you achieve your dreams, and live up to your potentials.
I hope to see you guys soon, and tell the world more of your greatness.
I've always and will always miss you(until we hook-up again).
May God continually keep and protect you.
I miss you and Love you. God bless you.