A Friend In Need Is A _____

Attitude makes all the Difference in Giving and Receiving

 A Friend in need can mean a lot of things to a different people. That's why we say "Different strokes for different folks." The popular saying is that "A Friend in Need is a Friend Indeed."
But time and again, I've had reason's to disagree with this. I've been shown that just as He can be a "friend indeed," a friend in need can also be "a counselor, a confidant, a threat to You, or worse of all, A Pain in the Ass."
 Back to the original saying, a friend in need can be a friend indeed diverse ways, He can be Your truest friend, standing by Your side, attending to your every need, just to ensure He gets what he needs, while at the same time, He can begin to bring up everything he ever did for you. Even the inconsequential ones. The favors you never thought in Your wildest dreams will be mentioned ever again, some even go as far as bringing back to your memory embarrassing moments you shared together.
 The most annoying friends are split into two categories, there are some who will stick to you like a tick, almost walking in your legs, willing to do anything, even when you obviously do not need their help. It's worse if you are in public, as they seem to have lost all sense of decorum, and would gladly disgrace the both of You. They'll agree to whatever You say, take decisions for you, live for you (If Possible), and make Your life a living hell.
 The second and I'll say most annoying ones are those who act as if You owe it as a duty to them to satisfy whatever need they have. They'll threaten You, coerce you, cut you off, and even blackmail you just to get what they need. Most of the time they don't deserve the favors, but they'll just choose to be a pain in the neck, giving you unpleasantly surprise visits, and would even report you to everyone you know in common, telling them of how you are being selfish, proud and arrogant.
 I had an experience with someone recently, doing him a favor, and expecting him to meet me halfway across, finish up the stuff himself, but he was adamant that I should do all the work myself and send him the completed Job. This is in spite of the fact that doing it had already cost me unnecessary expenses. He was adamant, and when I insisted He come to collect his Job and finish it off Himself, he requested that I dispose of the whole project, as he will get what He needs elsewhere. I decided this was going to be the last time I'll ever do anything for him again. And I intend to keep my word.
 Just as "A Friend in Need can be A Friend Indeed",  so also "A Friend in Need can be A Pain in the Neck". It all comes down to wisdom, maturity, experience and attitude.

Song Of The Day: Bebe and Cece Winans & Mavis Staples - I'll Take You There

Cece and Bebe Winans, Looking good as always.

 This song is simply out of this world, each time I listen to it, I feel different, I actually spent a whole day listening to only this music, I never got tired of it.

 I actually have no idea what genre of music to classify it as, probably "Heavenly Music". Although I do know that music in Heaven will surely sound greater than that, after all, it's God who'll put that in our mouth.

 If Music is an anti-depressant, then this is the peak of it all, It surely is an enhancer, as well as being addictive. It's simply crazy, Christian, Cool, Creative Masterpiece, I just don't know what to say.

 I can remember listening to it as a little kid, and being enchanted by it, getting caught up in it, and repeating the chorus non-stop, and not knowing the lyrics perfectly but enjoying it non the less.

 Bebe, Cece and Mavis simply killed it. Their voice was soothing, the lyrics is insightful, the tempo is just perfect, I've actually run out of words to describe it. 

 Just so I don't kill your appetite for it, I'll step away and allow You enjoy the song Yourself.

Don't forget, "I'll take You there".

Bebe and Cece Winans & Mavis Staples - I'll Take You There (Video)

Bebe and Cece Winans & Mavis Staples - I'll Take You There (Live Performance)

Bebe and Cece Winans & Mavis Staples - I'll Take You There (Lyrics)

Photo Of The Day: 23-May-2012

A Facebooked Brain.

 This is what some people brain will probably look like if an Ultra-scan was carried out on them.
It might also have stuffs like Twitter, Myspace, Youtube, and others.
I actually hope mine wouldn't be filled with Blogger or Blogspot.

Word For The Day: 18-May-2012

 Governor Babatunde Raji Fashola

 

 Some People are Deserving but Never Honoured, 

While Others are Honoured but never Deserving.

  - Governor Babatunde Raji Fashola

Bible Verse Of The Day: Isaiah 60 vs 1

 

Arise, shine; for thy light is come, and the glory of the LORD is risen upon thee.

 - Isaiah 60 vs 1

When is it Right to be Selfish?

Who Said That?

 This is a question which most people will easily answer with a big Never. but time and time again, I have been in a position where the appropriate thing to do would be to be selfish. Simple.
 Some people who know me when I was younger will tell you that I was actually a selfish little boy, and I'll testify to that. I actually was very much selfish, and I knew it. But at one point, I decided to be more liberal and selfless. Since then (By God's grace) I've actually been more of a giver than I use to be.
But the only time when I will ever be selfish again is if the recipient of my selfishness is proving to be foolish, careless, and unnecessarily selfish. Some people take your liberal attitude as foolishness, weakness, and a sign of Immaturity. They'll keep everything they have away from you, while expecting you to hand everything you own over to them, even when they don't deserve to have it. And whenever you ask for their contribution to a joint venture, they'll make an excuse, and give you a justification for their selfishness. Under such circumstances, I'll advise you be selfish to such selfishness.
 Another instance where I'll recommend selfishness is when someone uses your generosity as a front for laziness. Because of your hard-working nature, your sense of dutifulness, and your willingness to share, some people will chose not to work and practically live off your labor. They'll sit around all day, expecting you to bring in all you have, while they sit on their ass and wholeheartedly help you to feed off your labor. In such instances, I recommend you go into full selfishness mode.
 Finally, and most people will call me a selfish guy for this. when everybody is being graciously generous over a trivial issue, Then I recommend you can get a little bit selfish. I'm talking about those awkward moments when there is only a little amount of groundnut, or other food item left in the plate, and everyone is like "You take it, I'm filled." and then everyone is politely, charismatically, courteously leave the last piece of food item in the plate. I'll gladly pick it up and eat it. Let's forget about "big boyism" or ego, or "whatever". Let's eat and get our belly filled. Pick the last stuff left, satisfy yourself, forget about what others will think or say. And leave there.
 In summary, it is sometimes necessary to be selfish, and I'll advice you listen to all sides of a story before passing your judgement.

Song Of The Day: Djinee - Overkilling

One of the Coolest album arts I've ever seen from Nigeria.

  This song is simply crazy, it is a perfect display of creativity at it's best. Djinee simply had to be "In the Zone" to do a song of this quality.
 I can't remember when this song was released, (and I'm not going to google it) but I can vividly remember that I loved it right from the first time I heard it. Actually, almost everyone who heard it for the first time in my presence, or told me about their first experience with it, Loved it at the first hearing.
 I think this song did win a lot of awards, especially when the video came it. It was very different from other Nigerian music videos, with the creative use of composition and animation by those Mex guys. The video did compliment the song, taking it to new heights and unparalleled level of popularity as well as acceptance.
 The song is all about a former "Bad Boy" who is repentant of His past, has changed for the better, and is giving out a word of advice to His hearers.
 A parting line from the song, (as well as one of my favorite.) "Don't spend Your life to buy money, cos You can't spend money to buy life."

Djinee - Overkilling (Video)

Djinee - Overkilling (Audio)

Djinee - Overkilling (Lyrics)

Photo Of The Day: 10-May-2012

FACEBOOK JUNKIE

I was writing a piece for my second blog, The piece was about Facebook Addiction, and when I searched the internet for pictures to accompany the write-up, The results I got were really mind blowing, I was astonished and shocked by what I saw. Some were Heart breaking, while others were simply hilarious and crazily funny. But they were all beautiful.
I've decided to share some of them with you, more will be coming soon.
I actually hope You ain't like that dude in the picture.

Word For The Day: 10-May-2012

Power tends to corrupt, and Absolute Power corrupts absolutely.
 - John Emerich Edward Dalberg

Bible Verse Of The Day: Galatians 6 vs 10

 As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith.

 - Galatians 6 vs 10

An Empty Head, And An Empty Mind.

Blank Mind

 Over the last couple of weeks, I've been feeling awkwardly lazy. My normal Self (or as I hope I am) is a hard working, creative minded person. But recently, the creative aspect has been functioning, but my body as been reluctant to complete the creative process.
 For over Five years now, I've always had about 20 to 50 different ideas at different stages on my mind. From conceptual, to processing, to outputting (writing, or recording). It has always been difficult for me to lay down whatever is on my mind, as ideas were just boundless, ever-developing, and getting better everyday.
 I had always managed to discipline myself to bring out whatever I might be working on, because if I didn't bring out what I was working on mentally, I would find it difficult to work on other stuffs.
 But recently, things have just been crazy, I still conceptualize and nurture stuffs in my mind, but outputting these stuffs have virtually been impossible. And this is a very big problem for me, as my mind is constantly in a state of disorganization. If my mind was actually visible, it will look like a work-table where everything is messed up, and nothing is sort out. Or a one of those highly networked fiber-optic layer of multi-crossed cables, which are just spun into one another, and cannot be separated from each other.
 Simply put my mind is a mess, because my body is lazy. or should I say "The spirit is Willing, but the body is weak". I actually wish there was a technology that I could just hook myself to, and it would just bring up everything in my mind, in a orderly manner that will be easily understandable.
 I hope I'll get some of this stuff sorted out, discipline myself to work harder, and free up my mind, else my life could get real worse. (It actually affects my mood).
Or maybe if I get a

Song Of The Day: Taylor Swift - You're Not Sorry

 This is just the right song to dump an ex with. I don't know what might have inspired Taylor Swift to write this song, (I heard she mostly use the experiences of her friends) but if I ever have to break up with any girl, I'll try very much to call in on a radio program, ask them to play this song in commemoration of my ended relationship, and dedicate the song to my Ex.

 But it's a beautifully great piece of Music, Nice lyrics, and If I'm asked to rate it, I'll give it a 10/10.

 But if she actually wrote this song after a guy broke up with her, I'm really sorry for such a fellow, and let this serve as a warning to Him, Whenever He sees me, He'd better run, because I will "treat His fuck-up."

Taylor Swift - You're Not Sorry (Video)

Taylor Swift - You're Not Sorry (Lyrics)

Photo Of The Day: 09-May-2012

Drawing Your World, Just as You want it to Be.

We have the Power to make Our world, just as We want it to be. Your Destiny, Your Future, Your Tomorrow is in Your Hands.
Think Right!, Act Right!.

Word For The Day: 09-May-2012

A man can die but once.
 -  William Shakespeare

Bible Verse Of The Day: I John 4 vs 8

 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.

 - I John 4 vs 8

Stop Over Sexing Us.

 I don't know where the idea of using sex as a sub-theme, or point of attraction for marketing every product came from. But one thing I'll say, Whoever is the originator of that idea deserves to be flogged in the public.
 It is almost impossible to avoid the picture of a half-naked, (sometimes, even naked) lady every where I go. It is staring at me from the Billboard, the magazine cover, the center-fold of almost every newspaper, almost all adverts I come across, as well as products pack. And to these promoters and packagers, it doesn't even matter what product it is, they just can't wait to sex it up as much as possible. From T-shirt, to toothpaste, to toiletries, to food, to sport merchandise, to even schools. You name it, before you count up to ten of it's adverts, you are sure to find one with a half-nude lady, or shirtless guy on it. I actually would not be surprised to find a Church advertising it's service with something like this, or even a funeral home. (Although I'm surely going to get even more offended.)
 For goodness sake, not every product needs to be sexed before we'll purchase it, some of us are actually offended by this stuffs, as they do a great damage to young people, who might want to remain chaste, as it puts them under immense pressure to engage in sexual activity.
 It puts a big strain on relationships, as well as marriages,  as some women cannot stand their spouse staring at the almost naked image of another woman, even when the guy is not aware of it, but it just happens to be in his line of view.
 It is in almost every movie as well as musical video we see on both satellite and terrestrial T.V. Images that a few years back will be rated for adult viewing only, are now rated PG, and in some instances, they are even deemed fit for general viewing. Time and again, parents as well as kids have felt embarrassed, when an inappropriate image pops up on the screen, and it's actually impossible to take it off.
 This act has a lot of damaging effect on our society, and most dangerous of it is that it trivialize sex, making it loose it's role, value and importance, thereby making the younger generation who might have engaged in it loose value for family structure. It also make the youth loose the respect they are suppose to have in an appropriate manner for the opposite sex, as they most of the time feel they've seen it all.
 This is a plea to content providers, movie and music makers, advertisers, as well as regulatory agencies. Please, be kind enough to reduce, or as much as possible remove sexual content from your product. It will do us more good than bad. Help us save our society, Help us preserve decency, and the small form of humaneness left in us. Thank You.

Song Of The Day: Tinie Tempah and Kelly Rowland - Invincible

They actually Look Cute together

  This is one Big song, It crosses different genre of Music, and combines the necessary to make it a great song in an almost perfect manner.

 Kelly Rowland selflessly give us her luscious voice, while Tinie Tempah takes it to a more serenading level. It's a nice song I'll recommend it for anyone who intends to win the love of he/her intended Lover.

 It's a very deep and insightful song, rich in lyrical content, and just the nice stuff to put you in a lovey-dovey mode.

Tinie Tempah and Kelly Rowland - Invincible (Video)

Tinie Tempah and Kelly Rowland - Invincible (Audio)

Tinie Tempah and Kelly Rowland - Invincible (Lyrics)

Photo Of The Day: 08-May-2012

Love and Perspective

Lessons From Love And Perspective.

This Picture a proves point, When it comes to issues of Love, Logic is lost, Rules are Over-Ruled, and everything You thought makes sense, no longer does.
This explains why two people You never thought were compatible would fall in Love, and contrary to peoples expectation, their Love will stand The Test of Time.

Word For The Day: 08-May-2012

Publilius Syrus

 





No man is Happy, unless He believes He is.
 - Publilius Syrus

Bible Verse Of The Day: John 8 vs 51

 Verily, verily, I say unto you, 

If a man keep my saying, he shall never see death.

 - John 8 vs 51

Am I Addicted To Love?

That Should be Me and My Miss in the Picture.

 Suddenly, everywhere I turn, I'm confronted with something that reminds me of Love (Not sex, please, there is a difference. We'll talk on that later.)
 My old crushes are showing up everywhere I turn, Female friends I have are suddenly seeming more hotter, (or cooler, depending on which generation you belong to.) And I'm meeting new female friends who are not helping my plight at all.
 I literally use to close my eyes whenever I see a really cute couple, but in recent times, that has been impossible. As much as I'll like to put an excuse to this, there is a fact that is impossible to ignore. I am getting older, (I actually turned 20 years old this year) and so are my friends. Thanks to my more developed mental capacity, physical attribute assessment and appreciation capacity, and most importantly, but also most dangerous of all is some hormone advancement. (I don't know the name for this hormones, because I'm not much of a science guy.)
I've come to some conclusion, hoping this will help in alleviating my plight.
 Firstly, I'll probably get a very soon. But there is a big challenge here. Thanks to the many beautiful, intelligent , mature, selfless, and motherly-hearted female friends I have, who I happen to be very close to, It is almost impossible for me to find a girl who can perfectly, or preferably, finely combine most of the positive attributes of my female friends. It is going to be very difficult, if not impossible for any girl to meet this high standard of perfection, which this girls have built in my mind. But then maybe I will meet a girl, who will make me just forget about all these standards and conditions altogether.
 Secondly, I might have to stop being friends with all my female friends, Maybe this will help me ignore more of my emotional need for companionship. But this might boomerang, as it might leave a bigger vacuum, making me an emotional wreck in the process, thereby hastening me to take a wrong decision of getting a girlfriend. In which case, I might end up getting the wrong girl.
 Thirdly, I will like to get married next year. I have told this to a couple of friends, and after listening to my argument, some have bought the idea, while others have out-rightly advised me against it. Which girl in her right mind will happen to marry a 21 year old guy, (I'll be 21 years old next year), who doesn't have a fortune to his name, (But he does have big ambitions), and is not even a university graduate yet. By my estimate, I will probably have to marry someone about three to five years older than I am, As most girls my age-mate still want to live their live, have fun, and be independent. What they want in a relationship is different from what I want. But if I'm lucky, I might just find a special "someone" who wants to begin to live her life with her "Soul-mate" early enough, to have th advantage of being "Pure, Innocent, or simply all the advantages of being a couple."
 Actually, I'll prefer if I find a girl who fits my "Dream-Girl Description", I date her, and she gets along well with my friends (male and female) as well as my family. Then Next year, probably August, we get married, and "Live Happily Ever After".

Song Of The Day: DJ Ironik - Stay With Me

The dude is also Handsome by the way

 If You've at any point heard that Westlife Song,
"Stay with Me,
Don't fall asleep too soon,
The Angels can wait for a moment, etc, etc."
 And if You in anyway have a love for Hip-Hop, then this is the song for You. Although if You are not a Hip-Hop head, You are still gonna love it.
 I sometime find it difficult to listen deeply to a song, but I'll still want to listen to something that sounds deep and familiar at the same time, at such moments, This song comes to my mind, and puts my mind to rest.
 It sure is a great song for deep thinking, reminiscing, inspiration, and preparation for a Big day.
Feel free to check the song out via the link provided below.

DJ Ironik - Stay With Me (Unofficial Video)

DJ Ironik - Stay With Me (YouTube link for Lyrics and Audio)

DJ Ironik - Stay With Me (Lyrics)

Photo Of The Day: 07-May-2012

Dreams Come True.

This Picture says it all. All our dreams can come true, If we have the courage to pursue them.

Word For The Day: 07-May-2012

Be not afraid of Greatness: some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them.
 - William Shakespeare (Twelfth Night 2)

Bible Verse Of The Day: Psalm 1 vs 1

 
 Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.
 - Psalm 1 vs 1

I'm In A Love Triangle

I hope the three of Us don't end up Like This.

Before I begin writing this Post, I'll like to say something: I actually hope two people never get to read this piece. Firstly, My Best Friend; Secondly, My Crush, who My Best-Friend happens to be interested in. On a second thought, I also hope My Wife and maybe My Children never get to read this too. because it might cause a lot of controversies in the future, especially if I can't write special piece for my wife. And Maybe My aunty, siblings, pastor and some of my co-workers never get to read this. Else this is surely gonna change their view of me.
Back to business. Over the years, I've had interest in a couple of girls, I just wanted to be more than friends with them, but with time, most of the feelings get washed away, while some of them persist, and manage to stay subdued over time.
But then, My best-friend happens to be a "ladies favorite". He meets a girl for the first time, and she falls head over heels for him. While I'm a sharp contrast to that, I'm more likely to be disliked by a lady whose just meeting me, (actually, most of the female friends I have, I meet under circumstances where we just had to get along with one another.)
One thing I'm happy about is that My friend (Let's call him "T" for the purpose of this discussion, except you read my previous piece on Him) doesn't "Over Use" this to his advantage. He respects these girls, treats them right, and tries to be best of friends with as many of them as possible.
Just like every other guy out there, T also has feelings for a number of this girls, Two of them actually, until recently when He meet a third one, who He has been crazy about (Which is very uncharacteristic of Him.)
I'll tell you more about the other girls, and His own dilemma in dealing with them some other times, but today, I'm gonna talk about only one of them. (Let's call her "F" just for the purpose of this discussion, except if you know the three of us personally, in which case I'll most probably be in big trouble).
I'll start right from the genesis of this whole palaver (i actually didn't know palaver is a correct English word until I checked my dictionary, I thought it was pidgin).
I started senior secondary school about a month later than most of my peers, then I was posted to a wrong class for over half of the academic session. When eventually I was transferred to the right class, I noticed a couple of things about this class (I'll write about it sometimes in the future.) and It was actually impossible not to notice this young, confident and vibrant young boy. I was actually sat right behind him, and we became friends. I also noticed this girl who always had a beret on, (Which was kinda uncommon in our class back then). She was beautiful, and had this lovely smile which was infectious.
The boy was "T" while the girl was"F". Before the end of our first year of school, there were lots of hook-ups in our class, as we had begun to notice the characters of each other, and get to know each other better.
"T" and "F" were mutually attracted to one another, but didn't exactly go into an official relationship, although they were as good as being a couple. They were even closer and more cute than most known couple in the class back then. But then, instead of openly showing affection for one another, they'll engage in public argument, and consistently take opposing sides on almost every discussion, but the chemistry between them was very visible to everyone.
After we finished secondary school, I, "T" and "F" got closer than before, and they still didn't have any official relationship, although they both admitted to having feelings for one another.
As I and "F" got closer, I began to have feelings for her, as I began noticing more positive sides of her, and I'll admit, she got even more beautiful (I don't know how that's even possible, because she was already too beautiful before.)
I believed if I leave this feeling unattended to, it will die a natural death, but each time we talked, chat, or I saw her pictures, I loved her even more. If she was somebody else, I will probably have told her about my feelings for her, but she is suppose to be in a relationship with my Best friend "T".
 I believe asking her out will amount to betraying the confidence and trust of My Best-Friend, although they never dated, and I don't see that happening soon, but then even if I date get to date her, I have this premonition, that she'll always compare me to "T" which might prove disastrous for our relationship, and cause constant conflict between "T" and I, which is something I'll rather avoid.
If I was to advice someone else who was in this same predicament, it may be easy doing that, but right now, I've decided to keep shunning my feelings, and remain best of friends with both "T" and "F". And this has also made me have a change of heart in the way I give people relationship advice.

Song Of The Day: Taylor Swift - Forever and Always (Piano Version)

Tell Me She's not Beautiful, and I might just Punch You in the Face.

 This Song will easily make it into a chart of my all time favorite Songs, this is despite the fact that I actually heard it very recently.
 It's a music of a undying Love a girl has for a boy. Interestingly, I can partially relate with it, because right now, I'm searching for love, and I'm in a big fix, as I'm caught up in a love triangle. (I'll talk more about it in my next post coming up in a few minutes hours.)
 The first/original version of this song sounds really great, but after removing all the other musical instrument, and singing the song accompanied by only a piano, the level of greatness of the song is only taken to a new and higher level.
 As a side-note, I'll say this is one lovely piece of music, from a very beautiful girl.
 Join me and enjoy the song, as I proceed on a quest to find a love that's gonna last me "Forever and Always".

Forever and Always "Piano Version" (Audio with Slide Show)

Forever and Always "Piano Version" (Audio from Myspace)

Forever and Always "Piano Version" (Lyrics)

Photo Of The Day: 03-May-2012

Angelic Boy

This Picture is Just so Beautiful, I couldn't resist the Urge to share it.

Word For The Day: 03-May-2012

The Government's Solution to a Problem, is usually as Bad as the Problem.
 - Milton Friedman

Bible Verse Of The Day: Romans 2 vs 21

 Thou therefore which teachest another, teachest thou not thyself? thou that preachest a man should not steal, dost thou steal?
 - Romans 2 vs 21

Good News in Bad Times

Thanks to Good News, I can Laugh at My Troubles

 There are somethings in nature that just cannot be explained. But in the midst of all the unexplainable contrast we see in Nature, I've come to make a wonderful discovery.
 When I make a decision to sacrifice something in the present, to take care of the future, it sometimes seems risky, foolish, and overtly dangerous. Last year October, I and a couple of friends decided to go into a joint venture, we were to pool together our resources to cover the expense of this little business. This is despite the fact that none of us had any experience setting up or running a business, but we all shared the passion.
 Between October 2011 and today, we've raised and spent more than we thought any of us could possibly imagine. Due to some unforeseen circumstances, we have still not completed the setting up of this business, and this has put a big financial burden on Me, as I happen to be at the center of this activity.
 Thanks to this set back, the last three months for me has been a big nightmare, as I'm faced with uncertainties everyday, as well as frustration, anger, disappointment and despair. But I never regret any action I take, so I just wake up everyday put down the cares of the previous day, and continue with my daily life.
 But the month of April was filled with pleasant surprises for me, as I was privileged to have more reasons to smile, On the first day of the month, A very close friend of mine, (more like my sister than a friend) had a beautiful baby girl. This filled me with Joy and Gladness, as this proved to be a very good tiding, in the midst of a trying time. Then in the middle of the month, another friend of mine had a wonderful baby boy, making me happier, and giving me more reason to continue with my struggle, and making me more of a happy man.
 Every morning, I wake up to this gloomy world, and remember this beautiful children, and my face is lit with a great smile, as I realize that there is a silver lining at the end of every cloudy sky.
 To everyone out there who is going through difficult times,  just take a few minutes to look around you, and I'm sure you'll find a reason to smile, it might seem like a very little or silly reason, but just enjoy that moment and smile, because "Tough times don't last, but Tough people do".
 God bless and strengthen You.